Stringing me along? Ignoring his facebook mssgs?!?!

[quiet]

So I met this guy at an event about 6 months ago. We went out a couple of times, both times I invited him out. The second meeting was a disaster and I forgot about him but a month later he started messaging me on Facebook. He messages me, lets a couple of days go by, then messages again. Sometimes he says, "we should really meet soon," but makes no plans. He sent me his phone number and i sent him mine, but he never called.

So I figured, he's just stringing me along - why do guys do this?

So today when he messaged me on Facebook, the usual, hi, how's it going, type of message, I just ignored him.

Its annoying though- did i make the right decision? If i had responded, to his message, i'm pretty sure it would have been another round of, me getting interested and reaching out, him becoming more and more withdrawn and then vanishing for a week or so.

What do you all think? Should I keep ignoring him or should I be open and say, hi, I don't want to chat anymore, I am sick of this situation?

[aussietigerwolf]

you can either ignore him or call him out on his crap and then ignore him.

[Jasper123]

Ignore, if it didn' work before, unlikely to work now. But if he keeps messaging on FB, tell him to sling his hook.

[Gingerlee]

Personally, I'd ask what the deal is.

 

But then again I'm a very headstrong person and I hate being messed around. You obviously have some sort of interest in him, else it wouldnt be bothering you. If I were you, i'd ask for one more date ("Oh hey this movie looks good, wanna come see it with me?" etc, etc), if he makes excuses then just block him from messaging you.

[PutARingOnIt]

I just told a guy who was doing that crap to me to leave me the hell alone. I had only known him for a few months, we had only seen each other 5 or 6 times. For the last month and a half he had been doing exactly what this guy was doing, texting me saying he wanted to do this that and the other but when the time came, I wouldn't hear anything. I took this as him using me as his "just in case my first option isn't available I will have her to fall back on" chick so I told him to kick rocks.