Talulah Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 OK. So, I was not going to post this because it's stupid, but I spoke to my ex last week, he Skyped me and asked if I had gotten one of his e-mails that he sent to his sister. He is on vacation and traveling at the moment. I said that I did not receive it, so he sent it to me and then we talked for about an hour and then he sent me the e-mail, talking about his adventures and stuff. Then, I e-mailed him something funny the next day and we e-mailed each other for a couple of days. So, today one of my co-workers tells me that he sent an e-mail to about 15 people (some we work with, some we knew out on the town), just saying that he did not say goodbye to most of them. I was just going to respond, yes I got it, and let that be it (I did not get it). The last e-mail he sent just to me and to his sister. Maybe, I am just overreacting. But if we talk again and he says that he forgot to send it to me, then that will be it. I'm not going to play this, did you get this that I sent you game. Or maybe he just forgot and we will talk again like last time. Sorry, just venting.
lessica Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Tis okay, no need to apologize. I am note sure of his motivations here- I can see why it is confusing you. But either way, I think it is fair to say this guy is thinking of you. Even if it is game playing.
Philosoraptor Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Sounds like he is playing with you and keeping you close. His intentions really do not matter. Right now you need to focus on your own healing and that means blocking ways for him to contact you. Email, skype, text, etc. All ways he can shoot you a message and put himself back into your head.
Author Talulah Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 But why? We live in different countries. What's the point?
Philosoraptor Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 But why? We live in different countries. What's the point? Then it should be even easier to cut him off, work on your healing, and move on with your life.
Author Talulah Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 But Philosoraptor you are so wise, give me an answer:)
Philosoraptor Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 But Philosoraptor you are so wise, give me an answer:) The point is that by keeping, or allowing contact, you are just holding back your healing process and delaying moving on with your life. Life is too short to waste it thinking about someone who doesn't matter anymore.
Author Talulah Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 I know. Buf I feel like you will give me an answer and thdn I start my healinv procesd. For real
Author Talulah Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 My friend told me that I should give him the benefit of the doubt because he might just have forgotten. Also, I think that when you block someone on Skype, you get rid of them off your list.
Author Talulah Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 I really don't want to block him though...I think that I just overreacted:o
AllTooWell Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I really don't want to block him though...I think that I just overreacted:o This is going to sound harsh but whether you want it or not you're CONVINCING yourself it's overreacting. If you were really serious about your healing and about NC, you would block him in a heartbeat because you would do whatever it takes to make sure NC cannot be broken. After breadcrumbs every 2-3 days, I blocked my ex's number and it was like a HUGE WEIGHT was lifted off my shoulders because I knew he could not contact me anymore. I love him, I would love to reconcile with him in a few years, but not right now. And I know that the possibility of him texting me was setting me back. A lot of people say "well that's an overreaction" because they are scared of cutting that tie to him in the hope the ex will come back.
Author Talulah Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 This is going to sound harsh but whether you want it or not you're CONVINCING yourself it's overreacting. If you were really serious about your healing and about NC, you would block him in a heartbeat because you would do whatever it takes to make sure NC cannot be broken. After breadcrumbs every 2-3 days, I blocked my ex's number and it was like a HUGE WEIGHT was lifted off my shoulders because I knew he could not contact me anymore. I love him, I would love to reconcile with him in a few years, but not right now. And I know that the possibility of him texting me was setting me back. A lot of people say "well that's an overreaction" because they are scared of cutting that tie to him in the hope the ex will come back. I'm just scared of cutting the tie and not talking to him ever again. Which in the long run, I know it won't matter. But I will not play games with people. I don't see the point of trying to hurt me at this point, maybe he is not, but when you are calling me for advice about what to send to people and then send everyone else stuff, including your own family, and just 'forget' to send it to me. Then, you're deliberately trying to hurt someone. I've broken up with people before but I have never deliberately tried to be like 'look how great my life is' 'I am now going to exclude you from everything I do just to make you feel bad'. Why would I do that?
Author Talulah Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 I guess I'm ready to be serious about my healing now.
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