Kat_luv Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 For me im not afraid of being on my own, I was fine before him and I know that I can be after and im doing way better now. We broke up because of him moving away last minute and he didnt want to do the distance even though he promised nothing would change. He hurt me so bad but I guess I did too. He changed so much after we broke up and its like he cant be alone. He got into a relationship a month after we were over, saying that shes the most amazing girlfriend ever,couldnt ask for more. They broke up a week after he said that then went on ibto another relationship 2 weeks after they broke up. Wth? Is this his way of dealing with it. Hes only been with one girl before me and they broke up way before we got together. I actually tried becoming his friend first
JDPT Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I'm really feeling being along and such royally. I recall before her I used to be a happy independent individual, I used to go out, have fun, met girls and felt empowered to do as I pleased. I guess I just need to know that I can and will survive without her because I had a life without her and did just fine. 2
lessica Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Yeah, as above, noone wants to be alone. In my case, I was terrified of ever breaking up because I was so afraid to be alone. Now that I am alone I love it. I think maybe all my upset during the relationship was because I felt alone while we were together, so was already use to it.
JDPT Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Yeah, as above, noone wants to be alone. In my case, I was terrified of ever breaking up because I was so afraid to be alone. Now that I am alone I love it. I think maybe all my upset during the relationship was because I felt alone while we were together, so was already use to it. It feels better to be alone than to be alone with someone. 3
D-Lish Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 If your ex-bf has moved away and started serial dating- It's best to cut off contact with him. I assume you're still in contact with him, which is how you're getting the information about his dating adventures. It really doesn't matter why he is doing what he is doing. He may very well be trying to fill a void- but would knowing his motivations change anything? What you don't know can't hurt you- so by cutting off contact with him, you'll give yourself a chance to heal. 1
Legatus Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Being alone is not bad. I am just finding it again after the break up. I was alone but never lonely. Always had something going on, passions, even obsessions or sports, meeting people. It's just about remembering it, putting it back in place, enjoying it and even improving. On the other hand my ex asked me 2 weeks after the break up whether I think about new relationship. I said "no" because I don't even have time. She said she wouldn't be alone because she's afraid to. That's why she was in new relationship a week later. We should never be afraid of being on our own. If you feel good about yourself and in your own company - you can then be sure other people will too!
Talulah Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I have found it very hard after this relationship to be alone, but I am currently living abroad, so it's a bit different. But I am slowly feeling better about being alone now. I'm also scared because of my age (29). But I am slowly getting there.
mano Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Yes , being alone and on your own is definitely alot better than being with someone who makes u feel all alone.
theonlyjuan Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Longest I have been alone since I was 15 is 8 months. I am 25 now. I am really struggling to be alone. Being with someone is all I know as an adult. I have a lot less stress, I can do what I want. I miss being in a relationship, but it's no reason to keep going in one with the first person who shows interest. I jumped right in my last relationship 2 months after a 7 year one. Convinced myself it was great, she was perfect for me etc. Now after out breakup I am left questioning everything. How did I let myself get like that? I feel like I can't trust my own judgment now. What I need and he needs is a girl best friend. Someone to hang out with and share interests, without all the emotional stuff. Just let real feelings develop, without pushing it because of being lonely.
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