Teen20girl Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I'm a white American. I'm mostly German and Irish heritage with a little English. I'm not really attracted to Northern European girls for the most part. I live in an area where we have a lot of ethiopians and Somalians. And it's like I'm just in general it always seems like itsier to find beautiful East African women instead of beautiful women in my own race. But I find this also with Indian women and black girl and Latinas too mainly for the curves though. They also are much more curvaceous than the average white American girl. Overall though its like East African beauties Indian beauties and middle eastern beauties just are so much more outstandingly beautiful compared to girls of my own heritage. Among white girls its like the only girls I find attractive are the darker ones. Native American/white or Southern European or middle eastern or North African or Persian. I just really honestly don't prefer fair features on a woman. I actually tan a lot for this reason. Luckily I can tan well too. But it's not just color. Somehow I've just never dated a white girl even since middle school. I can acknowledge that there's beauty in every ethnicity. But I just never find a girl of my own background. My family who notice this think its a fetish. My friends just think its coincidental. It's not though. Is this normal or odd? And is it a fetish or what?
Philosoraptor Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 To each their own, not odd at all. Everyone is unique and attracted to different people and features. 1
New User Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 No. There's an old saw that goes something like "When two men from different cultures meet, they fight. When a man and a women from different cultures meet, they make the beast with two backs." Call it the lure of the exotic or call it whatever, but it isn't uncommon at all. I'm a pasty white dude and I'm much more attracted to latino and black women than I am to white women. Go figure.
Arabella Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Opposites attract, right? I'm a Spanish brunette with a big ass and endless curves. Men who have pursued me most fervently in the past were Middle Eastern, Latinos, Black... even White. Spanish men (as in, from my own culture) seemed tepid about me. My fiance is Chinese... go figure that one out. I guess we all tend to appreciate things that we cannot commonly find "at home". 1
Mer91 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 How many times I have been called racist because I prefer mixed girls to fully ethnic girls. It has nothing to do with race and everything to do with what your attracted to. ITs no different to preferring curly hair to straight hair. Hair (facial, naughty, armpit) to clean shaven. Fat and thin. You like what you like. The problem arises when you go out of your way to make someone feel inferior because they look like they do.
Fondue Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 White guy who pretty much avoids white girls here. Girls of color are just beautiful to me. I find I am most attracted to Indian girls. I go wild for them. Not sure why. I typically date Asian girls though. They're more reserved, less attitude, and (I hate to say it) subservient. I'm attracted to all these qualities. I have dabbled with black girls in the past. I definitely give attention, but I don't find myself attracted to them. I also found that the black girls that are attracted to white guys are wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy different than the "stereotyped" black women with attitudes. Every black girl I encountered/dated were always so kind, gentle, and overall really cool. I found this awesome, but unfortunately teh "man downstairs" simply doesn't go crazy over 'em. Basically OP, I don't think there's anything wrong with preferring girls outside your "race." 1
Phantom888 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Before I got married, in my youth, I only dated my own race (Asian) because I felt less pressure. Yes it's actually easier to date your within your race because there are less questions and stereotypes to work through. I married a Chinese woman, and that ended badly. I think fundamentally I am just not compatible with Asian women. After my divorce, I have only dated white women. I don't intentionally seek out white women....I just happen to get along with them romantically better than any others. Most of the white women I dated have dated Asian men before...or at least liked the Asian culture. My current S.O. has never dated an Asian man, and now she's like "wow... I've been totally missing out!". But in the end, it's all personal preference. To me, I really like the looks and personalities of Caucasian women. Their scent and chemistry turn me on more than Asian women. There's something about white girls that I totally can't live without....something intangible that I don't know what it is.
Phantom888 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 White guy who pretty much avoids white girls here. I typically date Asian girls though. They're more reserved, less attitude, and (I hate to say it) subservient. I'm attracted to all these qualities. Interestingly, the Asian girls I dated turn just the opposite of "reserved and subservient" once you are committed to them. They were just mean after a while. I too enjoy reserved and subservient girls.....so I date white women. At least they are genuinely sweet.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 (edited) Opposites attract, right? I'm a Spanish brunette with a big ass and endless curves. Men who have pursued me most fervently in the past were Middle Eastern, Latinos, Black... even White. Spanish men (as in, from my own culture) seemed tepid about me. My fiance is Chinese... go figure that one out. I guess we all tend to appreciate things that we cannot commonly find "at home". Arabella you have a sister? Op its perfectly normal. in fact, I personally think more people are attracted to different races but dont explore it because of societal pressure. It could be a fetish, but if youre into them as people, I'd say most likely not a fetish. I think that if you have no problem exploring this, you'll be in for a wider dating pool and possibly be happier. Also, if youre 20ish, your tastes could change in the coming years as you weed out more traits that you dont want to date. So you dont have to even be worried about whats going on now. Just have fun. Whatever you learn that makes your dating experiences more positive is a good thing. Edited July 16, 2013 by Eddie Edirol
GorillaTheater Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Is it odd to be a dude who goes by "Teen20girl"? 6
New User Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Interestingly, the Asian girls I dated turn just the opposite of "reserved and subservient" once you are committed to them. They were just mean after a while. I too enjoy reserved and subservient girls.....so I date white women. At least they are genuinely sweet. I can only speak from my experience, but the Asian gals that I dated (Asian, not of Asian descent) were most definitely not subservient in private. The public face was very demure- the private face was most definitely not. At least not when they didn't get their way. One of them actually took a swing at me when I broke up with her. 1
Fondue Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Interestingly, the Asian girls I dated turn just the opposite of "reserved and subservient" once you are committed to them. They were just mean after a while. I too enjoy reserved and subservient girls.....so I date white women. At least they are genuinely sweet. Maybe I haven't dated them long enough to see it? Every Asian girl that I ever been with treated with absolute respect/kindness and genuinely took care of me. Most recent example is a girl I am dating now. I got comfortable enough to let her stay in my apartment while I'm at work (if she has a day off, or starting work later than me). Whenever I came home, I had a (great) cooked meal, the place was cleaner, etc. She concerns herself with how I am, always tries to impress me and makes me feel wanted. Gives me as much space as I need, not clingy, but still very affectionate. It is weird-- Just things that I never had a white girl do for me.
sweetkiwi Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 It's no more a fetish than preferring tall women to short ones. Don't let ANYONE tell you that something you enjoy is "weird". You are not hurting anyone. Make your own choices in this life or they'll be made for you. 1
Eggplant Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I'm a white American woman and I also prefer dark-skinned partners. Maybe it's a fetish -- but so are all aesthetic preferences, and physical attraction is always superficial, yet important.
ltjg45 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I'm a black guy and my least preferred option for a partner is a black woman. I guess you could call that weird or the black women I have been around has disgusted me so much that I can't see myself actually be with one romantically outside of friends with benefits.
LOSTnMT Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 As long as you are happy with your choices who cares what others think? I am a white German Irish guy and I rarely like blonde women. I can't think of one black woman I find attractive and I have never been fond of overweight women. Everyone has their own thing that cranks your motor and it nothing to be ashamed about or think is weird.
USMCHokie Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I am not attracted to my own race, primarily due to a lack of exposure to them and the fact that they mostly don't like their own race as well, so we all do well to simply avoid each other.
Negative Nancy Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I am only attracted to my own race, everything else is unnatural in my opinion.
ScreamingTrees Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 (edited) No. There's an old saw that goes something like "When two men from different cultures meet, they fight. When a man and a women from different cultures meet, they make the beast with two backs." Call it the lure of the exotic or call it whatever, but it isn't uncommon at all. I'm a pasty white dude and I'm much more attracted to latino and black women than I am to white women. Go figure. Your quote also explains why such pairings don't seem to ever work very well anyway. If you don't care about family, that's fine, but speaking from experience, I've had family who have been with ethnic others, and their family wanted nothing to do with mine. I'm only interested in someone from a similar background, though I have found some women to be attractive, not because I found them exotic, though.. I really don't find anyone "exotic" as I've been exposed to all sorts of physical types throughout my life, the mystery was never there to begin with and I know I'd be better off with someone similar, it's been documented that the happiest couples are very much a like. So I'm quite confident that this will be less likely to be an issue. Edited July 22, 2013 by ScreamingTrees
mtber75 Posted July 24, 2013 Posted July 24, 2013 Interestingly, the Asian girls I dated turn just the opposite of "reserved and subservient" once you are committed to them. They were just mean after a while. I too enjoy reserved and subservient girls.....so I date white women. At least they are genuinely sweet. I notice and heard that the reason why people date/marry out of their own race is because they had pretty bad experiences with their own race. IE white guys who dated only Asian women will often say that white women treated them terribly in the past! All women have the potential to turn into polar opposites of when you are courting them...That's even more so with some white women so watch out Phantom888 LOL
Mariibabii Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 No, I don't think it's odd. Im the same way honestly. Three things: If you're not attracted to your race of women, please don't put them down. Not saying you did but please don't start. If you are attracted to these women, and are looking to date one, please try to find compatibility with something other than the "exotic-ness". Ethnic girls can smell out a white guy looking to date just because she's "exotic" or to say he slept with an ethnic girl. We hate that. African girls (West, East..etc) tend to be more serious about relationships than other cultures. Not to say that they don't date casually but we don't date someone for no reason. Understand the culture and customs, it's not exactly like dating a Black American girl. If you come polite and open minded, then things have a better chance. 1
Biscous Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I'm not strongly attracted to black women (I'm black). Something about white women get me going, and even with them I'm particular. So, no. Attraction isn't a choice really. You aren't weird.
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