No Contact or Is he just Missing??

[amkxoxo]

You can read my other threads for more detail into my situation. For short, we didn't really break up, it was more of a "Not now" kind of situation, because he needs to get his life together. Like he told me that if he gets his life together, it might not be for a long time, then we can try and make a relationship work. He thinks we go so well together and thinks it could work in the future, when he can put all his time and energy into it like a good boyfriend should. Well after our "break up, not break up" we agreed to keep talking even though I was kind of hurt. I contacted him 5 days after and he called me right back. We chatted and I let him know I wasn't mad at him and just wish that he can get everything he wants in life so he is happy. He appreciated it because he often thinks people don't like him because he is a little lacking in self esteem. Well I have been trying to give him space to figure things out.

 

He has medical problems which sometimes land him in the hospital or in bed for days to a week, which makes him MIA communication wise. I am not necessarily NC, but feel like I called him last so he can call me this time. I don't want to seem too invested in something that isn't there, like I said give him space to figure his life out. Well its been two weeks since our phone call and nothing from him. No texts, no facebook chats, no calls. I'm getting kind of concerned because he usually is all over Twitter, even when he's sick, and its been a week and he hasn't posted anything. I don't know if I should try and reach out to him. See if he's okay?? Or keep with the NC. Everyone tells me that if he wanted to contact me he would. I just know him so well and know his struggles and he gets sad when people forget about him when he's sick or don't try and communicate with him. When we were dating though it seemed it didn't matter what I did, I could overly text him and call him, or nothing at all and he wasn't happy. Should I try and reach out?? Contact him?? I still really care.

[amkxoxo]

Please help!! I'm feeling bad because he's still MIA. He gets sick sometimes so maybe he's in the hospital. I'm near his area for work so I could try and see him??he doesn't like anyone seeing him in the hospital but if I found which one he was in I could just show up?? I could text him and see what's up if he answers me?? I'm so lost and I feel so close to him being in his area of the country.???

[Echo000]

if you guys arent together, than it is not your place to go see him or get in touch. its not easy, but let this go. in due time things will be clearer.

[Simon Phoenix]

There you go overthinking again. Jesus. He doesn't want to talk to you. Stop creating scenarios in your head and don't be a psycho and do a pop-in.

[amkxoxo]

I'm not creating things he does get sick often and the fact that he's been missing from social media usually always means he's really sick. I am not going to contact him I will let it go.

[amkxoxo]

Like I haven't contacted him at all I'm just so sad about it. I miss him so so much and I worry and care about him. Its so hard to try and not care. Like my instinct is to be there for him. And the fact that I'm working relatively close to him hurts too. I had posted on many forms of social media where I was going to be so he could have seen it and contacted me. I am worried he's sick because he's still missing. I am just trying to let it go and focus on why I'm here and its not him. I wish so much that I could see him or that he wanted to see me. But if he's sick I wouldn't be able to really see him anyway.I'm still trying to give space and hope he gets better. I just don't want him to think I don't care or that I gave up on him or don't care if he's sick, or that I don't want to talk to him anymore though our last conversation I made it clear to him I wasn't mad. Idk. I miss him so so much in my life. I feel like something is missing.