SJ69 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Hi! Me and my ex recently broke up about two weeks ago because she got a little bit of freedom on a trip she went to, liked it, and basically wanted to see if it was better. Saying she wasn't as invested as she used to be, she thinks it's better for the long run, she needed time, all that stuff. I gave her the time and she ultimately said she wanted to breakup. It killed her because we are or were bestfriends, nothing she doesn't know about me and vice versa. Well now she's completely out of control. We have been NC for about two weeks, ever since the breakup. On Twitter she will tweet about recent citations she got, talk to guys that are just purely losers and only wish to have sex with her, new "friends", doing everything she used to hate and never do, ect. People text me and ask me what she's doing because it's that apparent that she has changed drastically. Just lastnight I was on Twitter talking to a female, and she has a bad habit of doing anything possible to make me mad, so she tweets "tbh my life changed for the better when I started doing me" and people picked up on this and realized she was trying to fire shots at me. Not only this, but she went out of her way to contact and flirt with a guy who is the epitome of a loser, to make me mad as well. This is not the first time at all that she has tried to make me mad. Not to mention I just saw her at a party and she immediately put her head down and left. I should not have let her make me this mad but the person she is turning into is not healthy and it's not going down the right path but it is not my place to say anything to her anymore. It just pains me because she was always beautiful when she was being herself with me. I just need help on how I should be acting. I shouldn't have let her get me that mad but I'm truly so confused! Thank you all in advance.
TaraMaiden Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 The key word here, is 'Ex'. As such, she is no longer relevant, and neither is what she does, who she sees, when, why or for what purpose. All you have to do is to quit checking up on her. Delete all possible avenues open to you, which enable you to keep tabs on her. Don't care. You're not meant to, anyway. What you SHOULD care about, is your own progress, well-being, future and healing. Stick to focusing on that, and ignore her and her shenanigans.
JDPT Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I quiet honestly believe she is in no way attempting to make you upset, she is just enjoying her now single life. You may interpret it as she making you upset as you still feel connected to her and have not accepted that she is in a different state of mind and has if not is moving on. Save yourself future grief and do the same, initiate NC, no more snooping around any type of social media apparatus, you will only end up hurting yourself further if you keep snooping around. Understand and respect her decision she has moved on and you should do the exact same.
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