chelle21689 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 How do I politely tell my bf that I want us to have more alone time when we go out or hang out at the house? He lives with his sisters whom are only a couple years older apart. it's understandable we see them every day after work because they all live together but we all hang out in the living room until sleep time or go out to eat together for dinner. Our weekends consist of mostly his sisters or other family too. Often we double/triple date or he had to invite one of his sisters to come with us. Most of the time cuz I guess it's be rude not to. He doesn't have an issue with us being alone because I think he wouldn't care as much if I brought my sister. I get along great with his sisters, but I just feel like this is too much and I don't knownhow muh more I can stand this. I feel like if we move out together they will miss eachother and that I feel I'm "stealing" him away from them so they can't hang out as much. If I being to request more time alone during the week he might ask why...and I don't wanna offend him
Author chelle21689 Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 One time I couldn't go out with his sisters and he told me how nice it was to spend alone time with just them. I got really upset because I feel like he always invites them with us and we don't get alone time at all but he noticed that the three of them don't get alone time instead. I mean I'm nice, I even invited his sis with our friends because she was home alone bored nothing to do.
Els Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Huh. I can understand him being fine with his sisters being around when you're at his house - it's their house too, so obviously you two should get along with them. But never going out on DATES alone? What happens when you invite him to your house, or out on a date? Does he automatically just bring his sisters?? How old is he? 1
Author chelle21689 Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Well I always hear them asking "what you doing this weekend" and plan to see movie, go pool, drink, dinner, etc. It used to never be this way until both sisters moved back in with him. I don't go to my house a lot since its my parents. But when he comes over and we were going to my neighborhood pool he invited his sister. she even mentioned once "you guys getting tired of me yet?" And offered to leave so we could be alone in the house "I'm always with you guys so I don't know" and my bf said "Be quiet we aren't tired of you" of course to be polite or maybe he really meant it. I like being with her it's just sometimes I want it to be us two He is 23, they are 26 and 27 I think
404namenotfound Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 So this is just my opinion. Most guys I know, myself included, do not get offended by petty things and aren't going to take it the wrong way if you ask to spend more alone time with him. I'm guessing he doesn't realize you don't like this and you just need to bring it to his attention. If I were in his place I would try to find a middle ground where I can still spend time with my family and with my gf.
Author chelle21689 Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Hope you're right lol. I'll try next time by "Lets go to ___ with just us" or something like that.
clia Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Why can't you just tell him you'd like at least one evening each week with just the two of you? Why do you think he would be offended about that? It's not a ridiculous request.
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