OhEli Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I first met "Craig" at work while we both were in relationships. He was very quiet, often referred to as the "a-hole" and just all around introverted. One day I was reading and he came over and started talking to me. We had a nice convo, he even laughed. I was shy, but I found myself thinking about him more and more, which was odd for me because, like I said, I was in a relationship. Our acquaintanceship continued and often times, we were seen flirting. One day he was gone and I found myself worrying about him...I left the company (not because of him, I got a different job) but I continued to think about him. I found him 2 years later on FB and we talked a little bit here and there. Finally, I gave him my number and we started texting. He was fresh out of a relationship, mine was going to crap and so I think we helped eachother. We started hanging out (every week) and talking all the time (morning texts, texts throughout the day and 2-4hr phone call at night.) I even met (2 of) his friends and his family...This went on for about 4 months. His ex had a baby and there were some issues with that and around the time things really started escalating, one of his friends started stepping forward and telling me he has feelings for me. Once this happened, Craig backed off...One minute he tells me "I don't want you to give up on me" and then the next he's saying "I just can't give you what you want, I don't have it in me to give." I have hung out with his friend (turns out he was good friends with one of my exs from highschool) but only on a friendly basis, he brought Craig up and I made a comment like 'oh, he hates me now.' and his friend goes "NOOOO he doesn't he's just...strange." So now, I haven't texted him since Father's Day but even then he didn't respond (first time that's happened.) I guess I just want to know how we can go from acting like more than friends to nothing. When Craig and I started hanging out he made it clear, he wasn't ready for a relationship and honestly, neither was I so I never gave into his advances (there were a few..it was/is very confusing) I didn't want to scare him off and it looks like I did anyway. Now, I can't stop thinking about him and I miss him terribly. All my friends are speechless, they don't really know what to say...If ANYONE has advice on what I should/shouldn't do, please fill me in. I'll take all the help I can get.
Author OhEli Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Is it that simple? He never replied the last time I sent him a message.
New User Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Is it that simple? He never replied the last time I sent him a message. Well, it'll let you know where you stand if nothing else. It doesn't sound like this dude is ready for a relationship for whatever reason. Honestly, from your descriptions of his behavior he sounds like he either doesn't really know what he wants or doesn't have the confidence to really go for it. Frankly it sounds like he's acting like a moody teenager.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I first met "Craig" at work while we both were in relationships. He was very quiet, often referred to as the "a-hole" and just all around introverted. One day I was reading and he came over and started talking to me. We had a nice convo, he even laughed. I was shy, but I found myself thinking about him more and more, which was odd for me because, like I said, I was in a relationship. Our acquaintanceship continued and often times, we were seen flirting. One day he was gone and I found myself worrying about him...I left the company (not because of him, I got a different job) but I continued to think about him. I found him 2 years later on FB and we talked a little bit here and there. Finally, I gave him my number and we started texting. He was fresh out of a relationship, mine was going to crap and so I think we helped eachother. We started hanging out (every week) and talking all the time (morning texts, texts throughout the day and 2-4hr phone call at night.) I even met (2 of) his friends and his family...This went on for about 4 months. His ex had a baby and there were some issues with that and around the time things really started escalating, one of his friends started stepping forward and telling me he has feelings for me. Once this happened, Craig backed off...One minute he tells me "I don't want you to give up on me" and then the next he's saying "I just can't give you what you want, I don't have it in me to give." I have hung out with his friend (turns out he was good friends with one of my exs from highschool) but only on a friendly basis, he brought Craig up and I made a comment like 'oh, he hates me now.' and his friend goes "NOOOO he doesn't he's just...strange." So now, I haven't texted him since Father's Day but even then he didn't respond (first time that's happened.) I guess I just want to know how we can go from acting like more than friends to nothing. When Craig and I started hanging out he made it clear, he wasn't ready for a relationship and honestly, neither was I so I never gave into his advances (there were a few..it was/is very confusing) I didn't want to scare him off and it looks like I did anyway. Now, I can't stop thinking about him and I miss him terribly. All my friends are speechless, they don't really know what to say...If ANYONE has advice on what I should/shouldn't do, please fill me in. I'll take all the help I can get. I'm a bit unclear about this..his friend had feelings for you, or his friend told you CRAIG had feelings for you? If the friend was into you, that could have something to do with it. Otherwise, I'd say his disappearing act is somehow connected to his baby and ex. Maybe they're giving it another go. Also, you said you touched based with him again when your relationship was going to crap. Are you single now?
Author OhEli Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Thank you, New User! Im very confused about the whole situation. ExpatInItaly, I apologize, his friend (Leo) told me that he (Leo) liked me. Actually a few days ago Leo told me he loved me! As for Craig and his ex, they may be back together but I dont get why hes clamming up now when we had open communication before. Yes, I am single now, I was single the whole time we were hanging out.
Author OhEli Posted July 19, 2013 Author Posted July 19, 2013 I'm a bit unclear about this..his friend had feelings for you, or his friend told you CRAIG had feelings for you? If the friend was into you, that could have something to do with it. Otherwise, I'd say his disappearing act is somehow connected to his baby and ex. Maybe they're giving it another go. Also, you said you touched based with him again when your relationship was going to crap. Are you single now? I believe he is back with the babys mother..
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