foldingaces Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 ....when you meet a girl for the first time after an online meeting on a dating site, chemistry and communication and a mutual connection is there. You go out on an actual date, sparks fly and you both are compatible (making out, holding hands)....then the next day, it all shuts down. She even insisted on all the affection, instigated it, and wasn't shy about it. So...this is happening to me. I haven't spoken to her in a week, but in retrospect, I've told her that her lack of communication with me is wary on me. Instead of her blowing me off, she tells me that she's TRULY interested. However, I don't hear from her. Granted she's 26, me 33....I don't know if she's out of that immaturity phase. It feels like whenever it is convenient for her, she'll probably talk....if not, she won't. Thoughts on how to approach this? Because every person deserves closure IMO.
Philosoraptor Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 You say that you haven't spoken to her in a week... have you initiated any conversation? If so, do you know what her schedule looks like? On one side she could be busy, on the other she could have found more interest with someone else.
CptSaveAho Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Closure from one date? Do you wonder why on earth the communication stopped?
Author foldingaces Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Alright, may I need to reiterate what I meant. I tried to keep it short, but I do see how this all could be misconstrued. Basically we have been talking on the phone, texting, and etc. After the first date, she wanted to slow it down after her initial affectionate "romp" that night. I just went along...we kept communicating, but I basically stopped it all and tried and let her prove that she was actually interested (like she said she was) and see if she'd instigate communication. I know that she had a busy schedule when we first met, but after a while, it was like she was all into it, then out of it that much quicker. I'm in no way trying to rush things, but it does seem like there's more on her plate to make a relationship than it would be for me. I am just trying to make sense of it all.
clia Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Just ask her out for a second date, for God's sakes. Why all the games? Why does she have to prove herself? If she agrees to see you again, you'll know for sure whether or not she is interested.
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