polycube Posted October 24, 2004 Posted October 24, 2004 so my girl and i break up after 6 years, living together 4 years, she gives me the boot. anyways the other day she sees me with another girl. she played cool and we went our own ways. the next day she calls me crying, she wanted to say that she thinks she never told me how much she loved me enough, and how she is who she is because of me, and i am evrything to her etc. etc. etc. and that she wants me to be happy, and she knows the brakup was the right decisioon, shes ballin and she at work which is even more screwed up. anyways the following day i send her an I.M to let her know much mail has arrived at the house for her, and that she should come pick it up. she says she cannot because her car is broken but that she can go in bus, i tell her i can just drop it off. anyways she talks to me and invites me out to movies, that she wants to just go out as friends, she goes on to ask me about this new girl ive been seeing, and she jokingly insults her etc. i tell her its probably better we dont see each other etc. that night i take the mail to her house, i call her about 10 minutes before i arrive and she says shes 10 minutes away to please wait for her and not to just drop it off cause she wants to see me, even though she knows its a bad idea. well i arrive there and she asks me to come in for a sec. I do and she hugs me alot, tells me that shes happy now that she has her own place. she has wattery glass eyes and looks like shes about to cry. im real cool with her talk normal, she invites me to have dinner with her there because shes prepared some food "happens to be my fvorite" i say i dont think its a good i dea i have to go and i leave. the following day i hear nothing from her the next day she calls to ask if she can come and get some other things at my house she needed. i say sure i'll be home all day. she said she wansnt thinking of coming that day but now that i mention it maybe she can come over and we take the dogs out to the park. I call her and ask her why it is that she all of a sudden is inviting me out to all these places. i tell her walking the dogs with her is not a good idea, she says it has nothing to do with the fact that she saw me with this girl. she sounded very very defensive and very aggressive. we hang up and i call her back to ask her if theres something on her mind... if theres something she wants to tell me, i tell her i love her and think about her everyday but i cannot sacrafice a possible good relationshio for a defunked one. she says she understands, that this has nothing to do with the girl and that she has nothing she wants to say to me that she hasnt already said. (meaning she wants us to break up and go our own way, i assume) she says she can just want a non romantic relationshio with me and not want more. Honestly i was thinking she was gonna ask me for another chance or that she messed up or something good for us as a potential couple, but nothing. she was very cold and we hang up. Now how can someone who was crying 3 days ago just switch like this? can she really just want to be friends, was she thinking she lost me freaked out and when she saw i was still in love with her she was like uhhhh i dont want you that much bye.??? or is this just a game to her?? im so confused
hulavie Posted October 24, 2004 Posted October 24, 2004 I think she's the one who is confused. Seeing you again stirred old feelings in her for sure, and even more that you were with a new girl when she saw you. After all you two spent so many years together, it's easy to say let go and move on, but anyone in a similar situation may agree that it's not so easy to do. Anyhow, I don't believe that she truly wants a normal friendship with you now.
Weird Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 Dude, to me it sounds like she is obviously confused, realized she fugged up and now is feeling like crap for it because she saw that you hooked up with another girl. She basically probably figured you were going to wait around and mope over her until she got her head screwed on and you didn't so now she is all pissy and emotional. All she had to do was be honest to you and not feed you some BS and you two probably could have worked things out after the breakup, right? But instead she was stubborn and now look where it has got her. Her mistake, her loss, her problem to deal with it.
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