bluegreen Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 This thread might cause lots of uproar here but as one lady here said : if someone has brain cells they have option of choosing of doing the right thing. Yeah I get its modern world out there woman can be doctors pilots and soldiers but some things will never change and should not and that's having a self respect and values . You don't have to wait until ring is on your finger or play hard to get simply take a time to know more then his mob number or his e mail address get to know the person for while. No matter how much guys claim they will respect you it won't change their minds about you or they appreciate your not playing hard to get truth is they won't. For those who are adults mature ones not looking to settle down and all they want is fun time OK as long as both sides know it. But nothing is bigger barrel of laughs then girl claiming to want real thing and relationship but hopping in someone's bed on first date then crying and whining when he does not call? Really can anyone really be that naive how can they even say that with straight face ?
kassy Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Right... Because no one has ever ended up marrying someone they slept with on a first date... Seriously, stop being so judgemental. Many grown ups can have sex on a first date without losing respect for someone. Clearly you can't ... But don't give your opinions to the whole world. Would I advise it as a great dating strategy, no. Would I say do what you want in a situation, yes. Sometimes these things work out. And at the end of the day who cares if two consenting adults have sex... Who are you to judge them. 7
Author bluegreen Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Am not judging them their own stories do and this forum is full of them or am I lying ? I never said its not possible to end up married or in serious relationship but those cases are rare. And just as you I simply said as far as dating strategy goes that's "wrong" one no more or less than that. Besides we all are allowed our opinions who are you to tell me mine is wrong one and to judge me on it ?
KungFuJoe Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 This warrants a thread? I've had more interesting bowel movements. 8
hoping2heal Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I'm not defending the practice but yes, I do believe some people are truly that naive. Some women believe sex will get them what they want. When it only gets them used then they are confused and don't know what went wrong. People grow up being taught all sorts of things and for that matter; not taught all sorts of things.
SmileFace Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 This warrants a thread? I've had more interesting bowel movements. Do tell ........ 2
mesmerized Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I have to agree with the OP. We can't change men. We can make them respect us no matter what. It takes generations and it might still not happen! So yeah, for women it's probably smart not to have sex with someone they want a relationship with on the first date.
Tinie Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I'm not defending the practice but yes, I do believe some people are truly that naive. Some women believe sex will get them what they want. When it only gets them used then they are confused and don't know what went wrong. People grow up being taught all sorts of things and for that matter; not taught all sorts of things. There are also women who are looking for no strings attached sex. So they'd want to be easy on first dates. 1
D-Lish Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 A woman that has sex too early is "easy", but a man that does it is... What, exactly? I'm a fan of waiting, mostly because it doesn't feel intrinsically right not to. I don't judge people that don't wait because it's none of my business. I think it's funny that you opened your thread with "I know people will probably flame me"... Then when they flame you, you cry "how dare you judge me for my opinion". You're judging people for their practices but don't want to be judged for your opinion of their practices. Funny stuff.
Author bluegreen Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 A woman that has sex too early is "easy", but a man that does it is... What, exactly? I'm a fan of waiting, mostly because it doesn't feel intrinsically right not to. I don't judge people that don't wait because it's none of my business. I think it's funny that you opened your thread with "I know people will probably flame me"... Then when they flame you, you cry "how dare you judge me for my opinion". You're judging people for their practices but don't want to be judged for your opinion of their practices. Funny stuff. If I was not judged I would not have judged her either simple as that. And as for my thread and someone not liking it all they have to do is stroll along and pass it. Someone said we can't make man respect us and its true they either will or won't but why make whole process harder then it has to be? And no I still do not believe that they did not believe or it just happened But its excuse easy to see trough and plain silly ...
CC12 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 If I was not judged I would not have judged her either simple as that. The very first sentence of your OP was judgmental and honestly insulting to a large number of people. I'll paste it for you: if someone has brain cells they have option of choosing of doing the right thing You implied that people who don't do "the right thing" are stupid. How is that not insulting or judgmental? And as for my thread and someone not liking it all they have to do is stroll along and pass it. They don't have to "stroll along and pass it." You opened up a topic for discussion, and people are discussing it. Some people disagree with you. They are allowed to tell you how wrong they think you are, as long as they don't break any of the forum rules. I don't think anyone has as of now. I don't really get what your goal was with this thread. You posted what is merely an opinion of yours, then you got mad when people didn't agree with you. What did you think this thread would turn out like? 1
Author bluegreen Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 I simply citified what another poster said here and I agreed with them. Yes I had a right to tell anyone to rather scroll along then roll of the subject of thread or similar its my thread and no one likes when that happens to theirs. No specific goal at all whatsoever and I did not get mad at all either
hestheone66 Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 1. be honest 2. be yourself but out of respect make an effort to present yourself well.courtesy and cleanliness 3. dont play games 4. dont overthink or read more into a situation 5. be safe..dont expose a new lover to possible stds 6. be open but dont overshare 7. have fun
Author bluegreen Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 1. be honest 2. be yourself but out of respect make an effort to present yourself well.courtesy and cleanliness 3. dont play games 4. dont overthink or read more into a situation 5. be safe..dont expose a new lover to possible stds 6. be open but dont overshare 7. have fun I like the list and part about at least think about possible STD risks most 1
therhythm Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Ohh I am expecting the slut shaming patrol to show up in this thread at any moment... I am sure they are already sharping their knives and happy to have a new opportunity to come and tell us how casual sex is bad
hoping2heal Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 There are also women who are looking for no strings attached sex. So they'd want to be easy on first dates. There are, yes. In this case the OP is talking about women who are "Easy" on first dates and then dumbfounded when a serious commitment doesn't arise from it so I was relating the example to that. 1
Author bluegreen Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 Ohh I am expecting the slut shaming patrol to show up in this thread at any moment... I am sure they are already sharping their knives and happy to have a new opportunity to come and tell us how casual sex is bad Get a clue boy I know Amsterdam is very casual on drugs and sex if you actually might be from there:rolleyes: but no one here is skinning no one or even lying about anything. Its not forbidden being easy if one chooses to do so but whining and crying about him not calling afterwards is annoying as nails scratched over board and ridiculously dumb as well.
therhythm Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 (edited) Get a clue boy I know Amsterdam is very casual on drugs and sex if you actually might be from there:rolleyes: but no one here is skinning no one or even lying about anything. Its not forbidden being easy if one chooses to do so but whining and crying about him not calling afterwards is annoying as nails scratched over board and ridiculously dumb as well. Oh yes, I am from Amsterdam all the way And I didn't meant you at all with my post... I actually don't know you... I am just so tired of this kind of threads where people is so worry about other's people sexual activities :rolleyes: Edited July 17, 2013 by therhythm
BradJacobs Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I've always chosen to be easy on the first date. It hasn't stopped me from getting into relationships.
veggirl Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I don't know how people can fk on a first date, unless they are maybe drunk. Just seems so awkward and it creates false intimacy...idk, I think there are wayyyy more horror stories about it than success stories for a reason. I can't see the appeal.
Perrier Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 BlueGreen you sound very defensive in your postings. I agree with CC12's reply wholeheartedly 1
New User Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Do tell ........ Um.... No, don't. Ohh I am expecting the slut shaming patrol to show up in this thread at any moment... I am sure they are already sharping their knives and happy to have a new opportunity to come and tell us how casual sex is bad I like sluts.
hotpotato Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 As if many men dont push and beg for sex Asap. I could easily go on a rant about all the many guys who have tried to get in my pants on the first date usually under the guise of 'cuddling' or watching a movie. When I was younger I really believed them. I remember I went to a guys house to watch a movie ( in his mind have sex). He found out I was on my period. He was pissed! Ive had guys pretend like they liked me so they could get sex very quickly. Seems more like its men who are fast. Double standards much? :rolleyes: 1
therhythm Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 As if many men dont push and beg for sex Asap. I could easily go on a rant about all the many guys who have tried to get in my pants on the first date usually under the guise of 'cuddling' or watching a movie. When I was younger I really believed them. I remember I went to a guys house to watch a movie ( in his mind have sex). He found out I was on my period. He was pissed! Ive had guys pretend like they liked me so they could get sex very quickly. Seems more like its men who are fast. Double standards much? :rolleyes: Do you realize the OP is a woman right? :lmao: Men who push for sex are always the wrong men... huge red flag. 1
hotpotato Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Do you realize the OP is a woman right? :lmao: Men who push for sex are always the wrong men... huge red flag. Yes, and? Women can have the same double standards as a man as evidenced by OP. Pretty much every guy in the dating scene is pushing for sex on the first date nowadays.
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