vyacc1 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Just wanted some opinons. I met this girl at a restaraunt she was my waitress anyway, i ask for her number and call her. she calls me back the next day wanting to get together. We go out that night and date for the next 2 weeks going out about 5 times in the 2 week period, she called me every day. Anyway i allready told her on about the second date that i didnt want to have sex right away because i really did want to get to know her and see where this went, and she agreed. So one night we went out and she was asking about what i would think if i was dating someone and they were sleeping with somone else, i said that i probably would not take them seriously if they were still sleeping with someone else. so that question kinda weirded me out but i didnt say anything and continued the date. that night she invites me into her place and once i am in she wants to have sex. I tell her i would like to but i dont want to have sex with her if she is having sex with other people. she said she is and that he is just a friend and its been going on awhile. I tell her that if she cant give up casual sex to see where me and her go that i dont want to waste my time and that i just wanted to keep her as a friend and see other people. anyway a week goes by i call her she picks up and we talk about 10 mins and it was a great talk. then i wait another week and call no answer and no call back. i wait 2 days and call again and same thing no answer no call back. I guess my question is why pick up the phone a week later and have a great conversation and now just ignore. was it wrong that i did not want to continue to date someone that could not put casual sex on hold? I still wanted to be her friend. any advice would be great.
kassy Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Ok well I don't think friends is on the cards since she is ignoring you. So forget that. No one is right or wrong. Just have differences of opinion. I mean fine that you only want to sleep with people who are only having sex with you. She may feel that she is only exclusive to someone once they are in a relationship. You may have come across as demanding or potentially controlling. Either way just put it down to incompatibility and move on. There is no reason to attribute blame in a situation like this. Don't keep ringing her. If she wants to ring you she will. She has seen your missed calls.
ChessPieceFace Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 For the last call when she answered you, maybe she thought you had changed your mind or just hadn't completely decided to cut you off yet. Sometime after that she decided and that was that. You aren't wrong for having morals. Kudos to you. You're lucky she was honest enough to tell you what was going on. Plenty more waitresses in the world.
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