loserminerbum Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 sup guys? how's everyone doing? so umm.. im 26 and i met this girl who is 19 like 15 months back and i have been in love with her since the first day. she is a little big but she is perfect in every way. she is charming, beautiful and has a saint bernard. anyways, we usually hang out like 2 or 3 times a week coz we're both busy with work and stuff. we have a great time when we're together and the sex is amazing. so the other day she uses my cellphone to log in to her facebook for some reason and she forgot to log off. so i snoop around a little and i find her conversation history with this buttmunch. i read all their 17,531 messages between them... i haven't slept since. oh god the texts between them... so graphic .. and they have been having sex every day from 12 noon to 1 pm... i dont know how she manages the time for this but, idk, the things they're saying to eachother and details about how they did it last time. im going to be sick just thinking about it. i almost threw up the other day. but i still lover her and she loves me too i think. well guys, im not getting any younger and this might be as good as it gets for me so one part of me wants to just pretend i dont know anything about the other guy and the other part of me wants to bite her nose off. i love her and idk what i should do anymore. any suggestion would be greatly appreciated
Sneaky Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I'm sorry this happened to you and I'll start by saying that I might not be the best person to comment but honestly, this is a bit much. Did you confront her yet? If I were you I would dump this person immediately and cut contact. This person is not "perfect" this person is deceitful and rotten inside for doing this to you, end of story. 1
JDPT Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Run for the hills and run fast and far away from that girl. So you are essentially disclosing that settling for a cheating perhaps not so good looking young girls is "as good as it gets"? You need to reevaluate yourself my friend and know that you are worth way more than that. You are still young learn to respect and value yourself so that others may respect and value you. 3
Author loserminerbum Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Did you confront her yet? no mate, i haven't said a word about this. i've actually been nicer lately. i was thinking of sending her a long text and ending it but idk i'll probably do it at the end of this week coz i'll need enough time to get my stuff back. 1
Author loserminerbum Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Run for the hills and run fast and far away from that girl. So you are essentially disclosing that settling for a cheating perhaps not so good looking young girls is "as good as it gets"? You need to reevaluate yourself my friend and know that you are worth way more than that. You are still young learn to respect and value yourself so that others may respect and value you. true mate, but i have built my life around her and everything was in perfect order and now im back to square one. i know 26 is not too old but im exhausted, im tired.
xilver Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Holy hell! Do me a favor a slap yourself in the face as hard as you can for me. Now how can you love a girl and introduce her in the first sentence as a little big? Nothing wrong with that so you don't have to mention it unless it kinda bothers you. Now why on earth would you want to be with a girl who is doing someone else daily? You are going to be considered young well into your 30's and even 40's by the time you get there. Have you ever been in love before? There is more than one person on this earth that you are capable of loving and chances are they wont be doing someone else. 5
JDPT Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 true mate, but i have built my life around her and everything was in perfect order and now im back to square one. i know 26 is not too old but im exhausted, im tired. OK I have one for you. I, roughly 2 months ago was dumped off a 5 year relationship that I wholeheartedly thought was going to spend the rest of my life in. And I was forced to realize that life goes on and absolutely nothing stagnates in life. As they say, the show goes on or something rather. With that being said you will move on, but only if you WANT to move on or chose to live in purgatory. You will make the right decision and know that there is not need to stagnate. 1
Author loserminerbum Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Holy hell! Do me a favor a slap yourself in the face as hard as you can for me. Now how can you love a girl and introduce her in the first sentence as a little big? Nothing wrong with that so you don't have to mention it unless it kinda bothers you. hehe. it does bother me a little though. i am worried about her health because she breathes heavily when climbing stairs sometimes and even got her a 6 months membership to a gym but she don't care.
Leigh 87 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Man. What a b! Tch. Look. I know we can't control who we fall in love with. We can, however, cut all contact with people like her. It will get you over her. Good luck. You sound nice. Imagine finding a girl who you love just as much, and who will not lie and cheat on you. 1
lessica Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Man. What a b! Tch. Look. I know we can't control who we fall in love with. We can, however, cut all contact with people like her. It will get you over her. Good luck. You sound nice. Imagine finding a girl who you love just as much, and who will not lie and cheat on you. This is great advice. Says it all. Listen!
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 So let me get this straight.....youre 26, have a GF who is 19 (might be the first issue-maturity) and she "loves" you, yet has sex with a guy EVERYDAY and yet you dont want to break up with her because youre 26 and tired. I cant even wrap my head around that. You have NO self respect. Get that "she loves me too" crap out of there because harsh reality: SHE DOESNT LOVE YOU. If she did, she wouldnt be having sex with someone else. Thats reality. So you are cool with her having sex with the same guy and her coming to see you as her sloppy second? Im not trying to put you down man or anything, but REALLY think about that for a second. Thats awful. Really just awful....and you dont want to put her to the curb because you think thats it for you? A cheating 19, immature bit**? Dude, come on man have some balls!! Confront her, tell her to GTFO, and move on to someone who is worth it because she isnt. Easier said than done I know but just do it! 2
Simon Phoenix Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Hate to be the heavy, but dude, get your balls reattached, put on your man pants and end this crap. This girl has no respect for you and quite frankly, if you are as weak as you portray yourself in your posts, it's easy to see why. She's going to walk all over you as long as you are with her. You have to set boundaries, and a good one to start is "f--king other people is unacceptable." Time to sack up. 1
Hoaks Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 What a cow, but in a way you are lucky you found those messages as this could have been going on and on and on. Get rid of her, now, she does not love you, she is playing you. I am only just over a week out from my lying cheating ex. But have already come to realise that there are soooo many nice good girls out there that would never do things like this. Move on and find someone who will love and respect you.
BeautifulBlueEyes Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 *whistle* Please allow me to set you straight - that is not love. When you truly LOVE someone, the idea of sleeping with another person repulses you completely. *shuddars* Even with a broken heart currently the idea of sleeping with someone but my ex kinda makes me gag a little (I'll get over that). Drop her or be miserable. You deserve respect and someone who treats you right. Not someone who plays a stupid game like this and I really hope you aren't TOO tired at 26. You've got a lot of years ahead of you to make count (coming from a 25 year old) so...do what's best for you and find someone else. But don't drop her through text. That's just...no.
Chi townD Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Dude, she's a cheat AND she's 19. She still a teenager and not REALLY considered a mature adult yet. So, she doesn't know what the hell she wants out of life and you're suffering because of it. she's using you. She gets the hot passionate sex from this other dude, and she has the safety and security out of the relationship from you. That's called cake eating. Dude, time to cut her loose. And you also need to go to the doctor and get checked out for any possible STD's.
Author loserminerbum Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 the next person to tell me to grow a pair is a doody-head. hehe thanks for the advice guys. i had a good nap and i dont feel so bad anymore. i did some more snooping around and umm... this bit is confusing. well, i read her conversations with her sis and my girlfriend lies and says im taking her to all these fancy expensive places which is a lie because i cant afford to take her to where all the big wigs come to wine and dine... maybe once a month i can, idk. and i have been noticing her not wanting to be seen with me in crowded places like movies and stuff. and after we hang out she usually makes me drop her off like a 100 meters from her apartment. i know she lives alone because i usually drop by every now and then. so idk what the deal is with her. i dont think she is embarrassed to be seen with me. im not that bad looking. my buddy says i should ask her to sit and talk things over but i dont know how she is going to react. i dont want her to flip or anything. she hardly ever frowns. anyways, thanks for all your help and support.
Zahara Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 the next person to tell me to grow a pair is a doody-head. hehe thanks for the advice guys. i had a good nap and i dont feel so bad anymore. i did some more snooping around and umm... this bit is confusing. well, i read her conversations with her sis and my girlfriend lies and says im taking her to all these fancy expensive places which is a lie because i cant afford to take her to where all the big wigs come to wine and dine... maybe once a month i can, idk. and i have been noticing her not wanting to be seen with me in crowded places like movies and stuff. and after we hang out she usually makes me drop her off like a 100 meters from her apartment. i know she lives alone because i usually drop by every now and then. so idk what the deal is with her. i dont think she is embarrassed to be seen with me. im not that bad looking. my buddy says i should ask her to sit and talk things over but i dont know how she is going to react. i dont want her to flip or anything. she hardly ever frowns. anyways, thanks for all your help and support. So sad when a man is broken down to nothing. 3
Simon Phoenix Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 So sad when a man is broken down to nothing. Yep, sad. She's f--king other guys and basically acting embarrassed by his presence and he's so whipped/weakened that all he can think about is walking on eggshells so she doesn't get mad at him. I just don't get how someone could be that emasculated. 3
ForeverHopeful1 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 true mate, but i have built my life around her and everything was in perfect order and now im back to square one. i know 26 is not too old but im exhausted, im tired. Everything wasn't perfect. She has been having sex with someone else EVERY DAY at noon to 1pm behind your back. ALL FAKE!!! Your relationship was entirely FAKE! I don't know how long it takes to write 17,000+ messages to someone, but it sounds as though this affair has gone on long enough!!! This is disgusting behaviour. No one deserves this kind of treatment and I feel so disgusted hearing about this crap!!! Ewww. I cannot believe some people. You deserve so much better and you are settling for BS.
Zahara Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 well guys, im not getting any younger and this might be as good as it gets for me At 26. When as good as it gets is a woman that cheats on him and is embarassed to be around him, it's all downhill from here.
Author loserminerbum Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 Alright, how is everyone doing? so i let my ******* buddy write my "you're busted" letter while i was doing... something else and i don't know what the fart-knocker wrote but she hasn't called since and umm... well i still have access to her facebook on my phone and i know i shouldn't but i really want to see what she is up to and she always shares everything with her sibling so i want to see what she is saying about me. should i go ahead and take a peek one last time? im really curious and im miserable right now.
Zahara Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Are you 10? You don't know how to confront your own relationship issues? You ask a friend to write a letter, even worse you don't even know what he wrote? By the sound of this, you're not mature or emotionally intelligent to be in or manage a relationship. Get your balls back dude, and stop hiding behind your friends and FB. 1
mano Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Do it if u r soo curious so u would get sure that running away from this girl is the only option left. N confront her face regarding this ASAP ! Seriously man. I am soo disgusted with this girl. U deserve someone alot better. Now dont prolong this n please get yourself outta it. I feel really sorry for u.
youngnlove89 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Oh man That is rough. I know what you are going through as I'm going through it right now. You will feel sick and dizzy and exhausted and depressed. It will be rough. But this girl does NOT love you. I'm trying to cope with this also and I find it very difficult. Hang in there. Make the first step: Dump her while you still have the chance.
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