Vesta Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Hi all, So, my guy and I are trying to figure out when and how the two of us should meet in person. Obviously, I have nerves about this, but for him, it's really an anxiety thing, and the last thing I want to do is show up and give him a panic attack. We're far enough apart that it really couldn't be a day trip, but we're close enough that I could drive it. With where the two of us live, it makes way more sense for me to go there. He lives in a much larger city, and there would be plenty for me to do if he needed some time/space to be alone while I was there. I'm wondering if anyone's started a relationship this way--online, and then met in person--and how the initial meeting went, what you did, any advice you might have. I'm a patient girl, and he's completely worth this, but I would like to give him some options that might make him a little more at ease. Thanks!
ThomasD Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Ummm . . . tell a little more about how you met, how long you've been communicating, approximate ages, etc. My wife and I wrote to each other, sight unseen, for over 3 months before we actually met in person. We were both 22 and just graduated from college. When it came time to meet, I was glad to have the person who arranged our acquaintance at my elbow. After about 2 minutes that was no longer necessary - we knew each other so well from our correspondence, and had already fallen very much "in like" with each other, that we did quite well on our own. Even after the initial greeting there was no pressure on us, or awkward expectations, to be together for any more than just an evening, though it evolved into more than that. In a couple weeks it'll be 40 years since that first meeting, and married (to each other!) almost 39 years. 5
Author Vesta Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 We're both early 20s. We've known each other since January, and we've been talking online and on the phone almost every day. We met on a website that is a chat room for people with similar interests. Neither of us were intending on falling for each other, but it's just pretty much perfect. We were on the phone until four yesterday morning, and we still didn't want to go to bed!
Carenth Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Vesta I'm just a bit confused went and had a look at your other threads. You were with your fiance of 5 years just a few short months ago? Now you are in love with someone you just met online in January..? Sorry if this is intrusive but did you and your fiance break up? If so it must of been pretty recent. Why I'm asking is if that is the case this is extremely quick to be moving on from a 5 year relationship into another. You are throwing around words like perfect for a person you have never met and possibly building up unrealistic expectations. This combined with the information from your earlier thread makes me wonder if you are making this decision rashly. 1
FitChick Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Don't drive to him. Why can't you meet him somewhere halfway?
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