Spoonss Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 (edited) My ex and i broke up over 2 months ago for the last 2 weeks I have been doing extremely well. I have been seeing a new girl casually and I like her but it was nothing like what my ex and I had. I am worried that what my ex and I had was a once in a lifetime connection. I saw a picture of her and her new boyfriend by accident today on a mutual friends facebook page. It hurt i havent thought about her in 2 weeks but then after seeing that it just made me miss the **** outta her. Starting to think what we had was extremely rare, after going out with a few different people. Are first loves always so intense both of us where first loves for eachother and dated for 5 years. Also its making having sex with my new girl tough like i cant seem to want to even though I am attracted to her I guess i started to associate sex with love. I never did in the past so frustrating. Edited July 15, 2013 by Spoonss
aloneinaz Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 My ex and i broke up over 2 months ago for the last 2 weeks I have been doing extremely well. I have been seeing a new girl casually and I like her but it was nothing like what my ex and I had. I am worried that what my ex and I had was a once in a lifetime connection. I saw a picture of her and her new boyfriend by accident today on a mutual friends facebook page. It hurt i havent thought about her in 2 weeks but then after seeing that it just made me miss the **** outta her. Starting to think what we had was extremely rare, after going out with a few different people. Are first loves always so intense both of us where first loves for eachother and dated for 5 years. What you're feeling is normal. You can't feel what you felt with a 5 year relationship with someone new. It takes time to build to that. Good for you to get back out and start dating. It's also a reminder that Facebook isn't your friend when feelings are still raw after a break up. I defriended or blocked anyone that would tie into my ex. I blocked my ex as well. I don't want to see what she's doing and she has no biz seeing what I'm doing.. You're on the right path. Keep dating and live your life. Before long, you ex will only be a memory that doesn't bring any emotion to your life.
Author Spoonss Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 I am more affraid that any relationship i will have wont be as I dont even know how to say this. Magical and new and exciting. I think you only get that with first loves am I right or wrong?
aloneinaz Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I am more affraid that any relationship i will have wont be as I dont even know how to say this. Magical and new and exciting. I think you only get that with first loves am I right or wrong? You're wrong. Trust me! Let me time pass with NC from her and keep dating. You'll run into another girl that rocks your world even more than her. You've only had the one relationship. So, how can you be so sure it was as great as you're making it out to be?
JDPT Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I can relate to what you are saying. I like to also say what my ex and I had was unique, it was magical, unlike anyone will ever experience in this lifetime. Yes it was amazing but it was merely a fantasy and we all need to live in the now and reality. You also need to be fair and not compare a 2 week relationship to what you had with your ex, it's just not a fair comparison. Give yourself time, collect your thoughts, remain in control and don't forget to NOT lose your dignity in the process.
Author Spoonss Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 You're wrong. Trust me! Let me time pass with NC from her and keep dating. You'll run into another girl that rocks your world even more than her. You've only had the one relationship. So, how can you be so sure it was as great as you're making it out to be? I was in 2 serious relationships before her. So i can compare it. hopefully what you say is true though. I really do.
JDPT Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I am more affraid that any relationship i will have wont be as I dont even know how to say this. Magical and new and exciting. I think you only get that with first loves am I right or wrong? We all have that fear, I have that exact fear myself. However, if I analyze my past relationships it only gets better and better.
cyberfairy Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I am more affraid that any relationship i will have wont be as I dont even know how to say this. Magical and new and exciting. I think you only get that with first loves am I right or wrong? I feel the same I recently (1 week) had a split (he ended). and i darned even think about a future relationship, there are people i get on with in work, who are all the things i need right now but i don't know if it's my mind playing tricks.
Author Spoonss Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 I feel the same I recently (1 week) had a split (he ended). and i darned even think about a future relationship, there are people i get on with in work, who are all the things i need right now but i don't know if it's my mind playing tricks. I hear you, yeah i can date other people see other people but i dont know if there is ever gonna be that explosive chemistry like I had with her. I think that is a first love thing. Before your heart is broken and everything is innocent.
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