Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 I'm not talking about the alleged fake profiles created by the OLD sites themselves to lure customers, but rather fake profiles put up by people you know (people you are dating or have dated). I had just begun dating a guy from Match, who lives 90-ish miles away, when I started receiving a number of contacts from men similarly located or very local who seemed all too similar to the guy I was dating. We're taking same exact hobbies, lifestyles, philosophies on life, sense of humor, and even similar general appearance (height, body, style). He just got back from Central America, and one of these profiles of other guys was from a guy who claimed he'd just gotten back from the same city and country doing the same activity my guy had been there for. It's possible they're all a coincidence, but I found it eerily familiar, to the point of thinking I might be being set up or tricked. Have you ever been tricked in this way? Have you ever been the one running the trick?
SJC2008 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Wow that is very strange. In what way would you be being set up and why? It's probably some strange coincidence.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Wow that is very strange. In what way would you be being set up and why? It's probably some strange coincidence. I'm not really sure. Perhaps to test my interest level? They all even correspond the same; same sentence structure, punctuation, certain word choices.
darkmoon Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 imho, a practical joke, possibly done with a few mates, bit immature, I would not take their bait, thus you leave them wound up (on edge and flapping) while they wait for you to reply 2
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 imho, a practical joke, possibly done with a few mates, bit immature, I would not take their bait, thus you leave them wound up (on edge and flapping) while they wait for you to reply He's late 30's and his friends are all allegedly happily married. I would hope that *if* it's a fake profile and not just an eery coincidence, that it's not done just to make fun of me.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Do they not have pictures? I mean obviously you can put up fake pictures but if he does that he can never meet the women. Well at least not met them with a big wtf? I just don't understand it could be a big coincidence lots of people traveled there this summer. Like I said, they all even look alike, in a way. They all have pictures.
sillyanswer Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Have you ever been tricked in this way? Yes, almost. The closest I got was after I had been dumped by someone (although, technically, we were still just dating and it wasn't a relationship... but anyway, she ended it) I got a message from someone else who seemed interesting. This new girl asked me various questions about my recent dating experiences that all seemed to revolve, coincidentally, around the previous girl... and it turned out that she was "a friend" of the girl who dumped me. I'm not really sure what the point was - it was all a bit weird. 1
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Yes, almost. The closest I got was after I had been dumped by someone (although, technically, we were still just dating and it wasn't a relationship... but anyway, she ended it) I got a message from someone else who seemed interesting. This new girl asked me various questions about my recent dating experiences that all seemed to revolve, coincidentally, around the previous girl... and it turned out that she was "a friend" of the girl who dumped me. I'm not really sure what the point was - it was all a bit weird. Yeah, see. That's what's weird about this one too. He ended things, saying we lie too far apart and it's not gonna work. Around the same time that other guys were contacting me - both from his small town 90 miles away, as well as local to me - that, if the faces were changed, easily could be him. In my gut, it feels like, "All other things being equal, who do you go for first? Local guy, or distant guy?" Like, a test or something.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 They all have pictures yet you don't know if it's the same guy? Weird. I don't think you understand the situation I'm describing. 2
darkmoon Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 He's late 30's and his friends are all allegedly happily married. I would hope that *if* it's a fake profile and not just an eery coincidence, that it's not done just to make fun of me. beer bar humor I did not get time to say - he may be checking up on you, thinking he's not going to get spotted as odd, except that it must be rattling you cuz you're asking Loveshack, it could be a coincidence too, keep us posted, I see nonsensical, in a nice way, more than dangerous, my 2 cents 1
iris219 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 So you think this guy might have created profiles similar to his own and used pictures of some guys who looked similar to him to see if you'd contact them? That sounds unlikely, yet psycho if he actually did this. I can't imagine a grown man going to so much trouble. 1
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 So you think this guy might have created profiles similar to his own and used pictures of some guys who looked similar to him to see if you'd contact them? Yes. That's what it seems like to me; they're the same in all respects except photos, and all coming at the same time.
LittleTiger Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 No, I haven't been in this situation but, if I was, I would ask the guy I thought was tricking me if the other profiles are his - and just see what his reaction is.
johan Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 While I'm sure it's possible for something like this to happen, who would go through all that trouble? There would be a lot of less elaborate ways to make someone look at least as foolish as you think you might be made to look by this guy. For him or anyone to invest this much time and energy in you seems a bit pathological and really unlikely. 1
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 No, I haven't been in this situation but, if I was, I would ask the guy I thought was tricking me if the other profiles are his - and just see what his reaction is. He already ended things, so I don't think that would work. But he ended things the day after I started carefully responding to one of these guys.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 While I'm sure it's possible for something like this to happen, who would go through all that trouble? There would be a lot of less elaborate ways to make someone look at least as foolish as you think you might be made to look by this guy. For him or anyone to invest this much time and energy in you seems a bit pathological and really unlikely. I've experienced far crazier things, J.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Yes, almost. The closest I got was after I had been dumped by someone (although, technically, we were still just dating and it wasn't a relationship... but anyway, she ended it) I got a message from someone else who seemed interesting. This new girl asked me various questions about my recent dating experiences that all seemed to revolve, coincidentally, around the previous girl... and it turned out that she was "a friend" of the girl who dumped me. I'm not really sure what the point was - it was all a bit weird. How did you find out?
Kamille Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Could it be an algorithm of some sort? Like, since you corresponded with that guy, the site is sending you more of the sort of profile you might like? I'm sure people create fake profiles. In fact, one of my past dates told me he had at one point. But the odd thing is that he ended things... So why would he feel the need to test you somehow? (Or maybe he talked about you to his friend who was like, woah, I want to meet her!) 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Yeah - once. The first guy I dated when I started OLD. I really liked him and he ended it after 6 dates. I was sad but told him no worries, all the best. Few days later, another profile starts messaging me. The way he wrote was very similar to the guy that dumped me. This "new" guy quickly asked me about my previous dating experiences from OLD. Particularly abut the last guy. He kept asking me if I was sad that he ended it and what I really felt/thought about him It was really odd for some new random person to be interested in that level of detail. Then the "new" guy encouraged me to get in contact with the last guy and ask for another chance. By this point, my instinct was very strongly telling me this was the guy that dumped me. I had no proof though. So I bluffed, emailed the guy that dumped me and told him that I was able to get the IP address of his fake profile and traced it back to him. He immediately confessed - but get this. He apparently wanted me to get back in touch with him because I was so cold when he ended it that he thought I didn't care at all. So he created this fake profile not because he wanted me back but to see if I wanted him. It was all for an ego boost . I really went off at him, called him immature and creepy and told him never to contact me again. I never had any contact with him since. 2
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Could it be an algorithm of some sort? Like, since you corresponded with that guy, the site is sending you more of the sort of profile you might like? I'm sure people create fake profiles. In fact, one of my past dates told me he had at one point. But the odd thing is that he ended things... So why would he feel the need to test you somehow? (Or maybe he talked about you to his friend who was like, woah, I want to meet her!) These profiles were writing to me shortly before he ended things and have not been in contact since. They all initiated contact with me; so, it's not an algorithm thing. 1
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Yeah - once. The first guy I dated when I started OLD. I really liked him and he ended it after 6 dates. I was sad but told him no worries, all the best. Few days later, another profile starts messaging me. The way he wrote was very similar to the guy that dumped me. This "new" guy quickly asked me about my previous dating experiences from OLD. Particularly abut the last guy. He kept asking me if I was sad that he ended it and what I really felt/thought about him It was really odd for some new random person to be interested in that level of detail. Then the "new" guy encouraged me to get in contact with the last guy and ask for another chance. By this point, my instinct was very strongly telling me this was the guy that dumped me. I had no proof though. So I bluffed, emailed the guy that dumped me and told him that I was able to get the IP address of his fake profile and traced it back to him. He immediately confessed - but get this. He apparently wanted me to get back in touch with him because I was so cold when he ended it that he thought I didn't care at all. So he created this fake profile not because he wanted me back but to see if I wanted him. It was all for an ego boost . I really went off at him, called him immature and creepy and told him never to contact me again. I never had any contact with him since. Good for you for calling his bluff! In the off chance it's all just a coincidence, I don't want to ask!
SJC2008 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Did you call him out for messaging you in the first place when he told you it's a distance issue? I would of.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Did you call him out for messaging you in the first place when he told you it's a distance issue? I would of. Nah, because I think it's an excuse. I just told him that I was disappointed but understand and wished him well. Then all contact from the other dudes ceased.
SJC2008 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 He already ended things, so I don't think that would work. But he ended things the day after I started carefully responding to one of these guys. Hmm? I wonder if this was some crazy test to see how interested in hi you were? If it was you dodged a bullet. 3
Imajerk17 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 (edited) If this guy is indeed doing this then its effin' weird. Like swriously creepy. He doesn't deserve you deigning him with the energy of a response. If he is not then you will be glad you didn't say anything.... Edited July 16, 2013 by Imajerk17
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