Who should break-- the NC

[Why_she_did_this]

So my friends constantly reminds me not to break the NC ; and maybe her friends are also convincing her the same. Just wondering, how this NC will get you to your second chance? Or is it true the Roads ends after initiating NC?

[xilver]

Depends on the situation. If she messed up and you left her then she needs to try and fix things. If she told you she is done and you are the one that messed up then you need to take a look at yourself and see if you are willing to change your behavior before going back to her.

[JDPT]

NC is not designed to provide second changes, it's designed to survive and move one.

[aloneinaz]

As someone said, it depends on who ended it and why. It's not a manipulation tool, its a tool to help you cope and move on with your life. If you were dumped, sometimes going NC will help the other realize they miss you and MIGHT want to try again.

 

Most reconciliations don't work. I'm a professional at them and I'm single! The same issues that caused the break up will still be there after the new honeymoon phase ends. People that are truly in love don't give up on the other, the work through the problems.

[Why_she_did_this]

I know its just not a tool to get back someone, but I having these urges to just know how she is doing, But then, I know its really really a bad idea. The reason I started NC is to know what exactly I wanted and also I dont know was she playing hard to get, not interested, shy and expecting me to initiate. This situation creates the urge to find out the answer. Then this loop starts -- [urges-- Logic--Unknown--Urges]

 

I am ready to move on atleast to be a happy single. But previously by being single I completely Ignored this whole dating game.

I dont even understands the signs girls throws at you and thats why I am in this situation. but I guess IGNORING is not at all a solution and I have to understand the science of dating. Thanks guys for your opinion. Please let me know more from your experience.