Pregnant, so nookie blues...

[Save5]

So my wife is 11 weeks pregnant and I've noticed a huge decline in the bedroom romance. She used to beg for it and now she has been turning me down left and right. We already have two kids and I remember her being very sexually active during both prior pregnancies. She is only in the first trimester and I have read that most of the time, the increased sex drive comes more during the 2'd n 3d trimester. True and any advice?

[Eve]

Could be that mentally she wants to be extra careful to avoid miscarriage. Or maybe she needs a bit of wooing?

 

Each pregnancy is different.

 

I tend to think positively but could there be anything else wrong that you sense? Have you spent much time together recently away from normal life?

 

Take care,

Eve x

[dichotomy]

After the third month of wife's preganncy - nada - including till 2 months after as well.

 

Advice? Some baby oil, 10 boxes of kleenix tissues, and your laptop.

[ThomasD]

Based on my experience with 4 pregnancies, my wife started getting significantly hornier around the 3rd month. (Standard disclaimer follows . . . ) Of course, everybody is different. The puzzling thing is that this is her third experience, so the different behavior is a symptom that really should be investigated!

 

The obvious explanation is that with 2 kids already in the house, the physiological demands of pregnancy are simply wearing her out. Another, somewhat less likely possibility, is that the baby she is carrying is of the opposite sex from the previous two. (My wife said the early-pregnancy morning sickness was noticeably worse with one sex than the other, but I don't recall which one.)

 

This situation really needs to be investigated by competent professionals. The condition may not be "treatable", but I'd try to get a reasonable explanation for why it's happening. Start by expressing concern with her OB/GYN, but if a good answer doesn't seem to be forthcoming, then a counselor may be in order.

[Ninja'sHusband]

1st trimester can be really tough if they are going through sickness/nausea. My ex went through that pretty bad. She definitely changed during the 2nd trimester!!