Author Jenny1234 Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Going cold turkey on him will be the best plan of action. He will either panic and try to win you back or you will have a chance to move on from him and find someone who actually wants to be with you without you chasing them. I know it's easier said than done but you seem to have a good head on your shoulders. Good luck! I'm taking your advice. I'm sick and tired of it all. I made a slip up last night trying to make a meetup. I'm pretty sure I won't hear from him again regarding meeting up and I'm done contacting him. He has major communication problems anyways which I can't stand! Thank you
Author Jenny1234 Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Closure is just a word. Beating a dead horse by talking about a failed relationship MONTHS later is a waste of time in my opinion. It's been three months... He hasn't called you and asked to meet with you Jenny. That's a pretty strong statement. I think it will really set you back to rehash all this over again. I'm at 6 wks NC since break up. She seems like a stranger to me now. I know dating has helped that occur as well. She ended it (again) and hasn't heard a word from me. I haven't heard a word from her as well so that tells me we are both in agreement that it's time to find someone else. I just thought if she called me and 'wanted to talk', there wouldn't be much to say. No one is going to be compatiable to her unless she makes MAJOR changes which isn't going to happen. So why would I want to talk to her much less meet with her? I think you need to view it the same way. Thank you. The horse is dead. You are right. He has his own personal issues and communication problems. It took him months to tell me he was unhappy so I can only imagine it would take several months to realize he missed me. And I won't be around waiting another second or trxting him anymore just to chat. Good luck to the next sucker that gets him and his laziness. I'm way better than this all and deserve the best!
J_L_C Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I made this mistake as well. About three months or so after we broke up we started talking again. Guess what it turned into? Friends with benefits. I had feelings for him and he knew it yet he still abused that trust of mine. It has been a year since we broke up and I am still hung up on him. We only recently Stopped talking about two months ago and only then does the true healing begin. I learned this the hard way. I even reached out just a couple of weeks ago to see if he could meet me for a quick face-to-face so I could explain a health situation I am going through. I still thought he cared enough about me to at least hear this out. But he just doesn't care and flat out refused to see me. Due to the fact that I was weak and continue to see him for months and months postbreakup, I am much worse off for it. He felt the need to rub his other conquests in my face and proclaimed how happy he was and that he is so glad he ended our relationship. It set me back farther than I can explain because I was now aware of what he had been doing since we split and he surely was not reconsidering me or thinking in any way that he had made a mistake. Thinking about the fact that I reached out to him most recently has even made me question whether I would have really been able to put myself in his presence. What you don't know can't hurt you. I am hoping to never contact him again! In fact it would be so satisfying to turn him down if HE reached out but it's too late for that. I really don't know what I would have ever expected anyway if I had seen him. So really REALLY think about it first!!! 1
Author Jenny1234 Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 I made this mistake as well. About three months or so after we broke up we started talking again. Guess what it turned into? Friends with benefits. I had feelings for him and he knew it yet he still abused that trust of mine. It has been a year since we broke up and I am still hung up on him. We only recently Stopped talking about two months ago and only then does the true healing begin. I learned this the hard way. I even reached out just a couple of weeks ago to see if he could meet me for a quick face-to-face so I could explain a health situation I am going through. I still thought he cared enough about me to at least hear this out. But he just doesn't care and flat out refused to see me. Due to the fact that I was weak and continue to see him for months and months postbreakup, I am much worse off for it. He felt the need to rub his other conquests in my face and proclaimed how happy he was and that he is so glad he ended our relationship. It set me back farther than I can explain because I was now aware of what he had been doing since we split and he surely was not reconsidering me or thinking in any way that he had made a mistake. Thinking about the fact that I reached out to him most recently has even made me question whether I would have really been able to put myself in his presence. What you don't know can't hurt you. I am hoping to never contact him again! In fact it would be so satisfying to turn him down if HE reached out but it's too late for that. I really don't know what I would have ever expected anyway if I had seen him. So really REALLY think about it first!!! Wow just keep looking forward and don't even think about the past. I'm already so mad at myself for letting my situation get this far. As of right now I'm moving forward its the only choice I have been given. I hope the same for you. Very much good luck
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