Alittlelosthere Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now. This is my third long term relationship, his first (we are both 26.) I feel as tho it is time for us to move in together. I think we would do great living in one space. Unfortunately he does not: he says he is not ready and does not know if he is going to be ready anytime soon. His older sister is going through a divorce, and I feel this night have something to do with it. We have been arguing so much about it we decided to take a month break to figure out what we want. (I think we are both hoping the other changes their mind.) I love him but I don't want to wait around for years just to find out he doesn't want to move in. Help! Am I wasting my time sticking around?!
Philosoraptor Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 All you can do is respect his wishes. Do you have any reason not to trust him? Pressuring him and fighting about it is just going to push the relationship apart, which seems to have happened already. If things were happy before the "moving in" talk, then just be patient with it and let him get there in his own time. Enjoy the relationship and continue to grow closer until you both are ready for this step. 1
1369 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 A lot of guys are not ready to settle down anymore before 30. I know I wasn't. I would have a serious discussion with him, and if he isn't ready to propose to you after 1.5 years, he ain't gonna do it after 2.5 years or 3.5 years or 4.5 years... Once a guy has dated a fair bit and had a few relationships, especially a long term one, he figured out what he wants. At this point, it won't take him more than a year to make up his mind. When I was a few years younger, I didn't know exactly what I wanted and I didn't have a successful career yet. So I wasn't ready to settle down, especially since I knew my prospects would go way up after I started making good money.
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