Author darna Posted July 22, 2013 Author Posted July 22, 2013 I need help everyone.... He emailed me today!!!! My god seriously when I was jsut about to move on... So this is his reply... "Hi there sorry I had some family issue , my mom was sick and got busy with that. well I don't like games either so I am glad u explained yourself , also i tend to like m woman to wear makeup and smell like girl so if you up to that i don't mind seeing u , I am attracted but there are things as a man i like on my woman" Please I need your opinion guys... This is insane!!!
clia Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 I need help everyone.... He emailed me today!!!! My god seriously when I was jsut about to move on... So this is his reply... "Hi there sorry I had some family issue , my mom was sick and got busy with that. well I don't like games either so I am glad u explained yourself , also i tend to like m woman to wear makeup and smell like girl so if you up to that i don't mind seeing u , I am attracted but there are things as a man i like on my woman" Please I need your opinion guys... This is insane!!! I'm having a little trouble deciphering his English, but it sounds like he is saying that he is up for seeing you again, but only if you wear make up and smell like a girl, because he Tarzan, you Jane, and he likes his women a certain way. So...sounds like maybe you aren't really his type, since he's already asking you to not be yourself around him. (Sounds like he prefers more girly girls.) I think you should just pass on this one. Don't even bother responding. 3
SmileFace Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I need help everyone.... He emailed me today!!!! My god seriously when I was jsut about to move on... So this is his reply... "Hi there sorry I had some family issue , my mom was sick and got busy with that. well I don't like games either so I am glad u explained yourself , also i tend to like m woman to wear makeup and smell like girl so if you up to that i don't mind seeing u , I am attracted but there are things as a man i like on my woman" Please I need your opinion guys... This is insane!!! Shouldn't you be a bit disrespected he wants you to change? I really wonder about your attire and his... smh 1
kiss_andmakeup Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I need help everyone.... He emailed me today!!!! My god seriously when I was jsut about to move on... So this is his reply... "Hi there sorry I had some family issue , my mom was sick and got busy with that. well I don't like games either so I am glad u explained yourself , also i tend to like m woman to wear makeup and smell like girl so if you up to that i don't mind seeing u , I am attracted but there are things as a man i like on my woman" Please I need your opinion guys... This is insane!!! I don't know whether to laugh or cry! RUN!!! And don't look back! 4
Gottabestrong Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 He 'doesn't mind seeing you'? He is obviously not interested in you, but would be willing to give it another try 'if you put on makeup and perfume'. Excuse me? Sounds like he thinks you are ugly and smell bad. Do I need to go on? Girl, please, if you have an ounce of self-respect do not write back or agree to go on another date with him. 1
forgetmenot75 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Omg this is hilarious!! And you s don't know what to do? I'll tell you what to do: first delete this guy from your life. He's laughing at your expense (Im laughing too to be honest). Second: do some research about men and dating because you are 34 but you're acting like a 11 year old girl. You have no idea of what the rules or whatever you want to call them are. Go, do some reaserach before trying to date again. This guy is a jerk and your lucky it wasn't worse.
forgetmenot75 Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 He is saying you are not femenine at all, btw.
therhythm Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I need help everyone.... He emailed me today!!!! My god seriously when I was jsut about to move on... So this is his reply... "Hi there sorry I had some family issue , my mom was sick and got busy with that. well I don't like games either so I am glad u explained yourself , also i tend to like m woman to wear makeup and smell like girl so if you up to that i don't mind seeing u , I am attracted but there are things as a man i like on my woman" Please I need your opinion guys... This is insane!!! If you like the guy, just give it a try... many here will tell you to run but they are not you and they don't have the whole view of how the guy is. If you don't like him or he doesn't treat you well then you can always just call it quit.. Many guys don't really know how to express themselves good Anyway... every choice has its consequences (good and bad ones)... just measure them up and pick the one that is more appealing for you. Good luck with whatever you decide to do
StayBeautiful Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Basically, he's still not interested. But he got horny, and he might toss you a bone (so to speak) if you dress up, put on some lipstick and let him indulge some fantasy. And then you'll be back on here wondering why he hasn't replied to your email apologising if the sex was bad. 1
therhythm Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Basically, he's still not interested. But he got horny, and he might toss you a bone (so to speak) if you dress up, put on some lipstick and let him indulge some fantasy. And then you'll be back on here wondering why he hasn't replied to your email apologising if the sex was bad. They have not even kissed for what I read in the OP's post... and you are already saying the guy is just looking for sex? Bitter much?
hoping2heal Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 Ugh, I always get in trouble when I don't read the last page.
StayBeautiful Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 They have not even kissed for what I read in the OP's post... and you are already saying the guy is just looking for sex? Bitter much? lol ........
hoping2heal Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 "Hi there sorry I had some family issue , my mom was sick and got busy with that. This is questionable. I mean maybe it's legit but the likelihood that he had no time at all in over 2 weeks to write you back makes me think otherwise. well I don't like games either so I am glad u explained yourself , also i tend to like m woman to wear makeup and smell like girl so if you up to that i don't mind seeing u , I am attracted but there are things as a man i like on my woman" So he needs you to change yourself in order for him to "not mind" seeing you again. I think that's a no brainer on what to do next. 1
therhythm Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I see nothing 'bitter' about StayBeautiful's remarks. I think she's right on the money. Look, the guy disappeared - literally - after what appeared to be a good first date. Now, there's no denying the OP pulled a rookie move and wrote him a message that sounded like an insecure teenage girl had written it; he didn't reply to that message because it probably raised plenty of red flags for him but it's very likely he wasn't going to contact her again, anyway. So the email was just another 'strike' against her in his mind. Then out of the blue the guy suddenly writes back a barely intelligible response with a LAME excuse about "getting busy because his mother got sick?" ROFL!!! Come ON. Further, he goes on to say if the OP is willing to look more like a woman, he'd consider giving her some of his OH SO PRECIOUS time. Sounds as though the other prospects he was hoping to get with from the dating site didn't work out so now the OP is his only current option. He clearly lets her know she's not his type, but if she's willing to be more feminine, he wouldn't "MIND" seeing her. Who the hell in their right mind would give this jack-hole the time of day - whether he wants sex or NOT??? I sure wouldn't. If you're smart Darna, YOU won't either. Yep, the guy's message is really stupid! But what I am trying to say is that we (guys) can be that stupid sometimes without any hidden agenda. I would agree that if OP doesn't feel like seeing him again she shouldn't but if she fancies him she can just give it a try and if he makes a silly move then she calls it quit...is not that she has to have sex with him if she doesn't want to right? Not trying to pick sides here but I honestly think that while to us the guy sounds like a moron if OP likes him there is no harm on giving him a second chance and see what comes from it... she can always decide to stop seeing him, or not?
kassy Posted July 23, 2013 Posted July 23, 2013 I agree what's the harm in having another date? I mean if he is a dickhead then she will get the opportunity to see it first hand. It is a second date not marriage... She clearly is not all that experienced at dating... Lets be honest most women wear some make up and perfume on a date... And just generally. If she really doesn't like make up and perfume then no need for date number 2. I would go into the date not expecting much, but she seemed to like him. She doesn't have to ever see him again, kiss him or have sex... 1
Author darna Posted July 26, 2013 Author Posted July 26, 2013 Thank you everyone for your insights. I did like him but after receiving the email I felt insulted. I posted my dilemma here because I was torn between having self respect and following my infatuation for him. I finally emailed him stating that I am not the woman he is looking for and I wish him all the best and it was nice spending time with him. This is a very hurtful experience for me but I chose to move on. Most importantly, I met someone who made me realize the difference between a guy who is into you and a guy who is not. The new guy tells me all the time how lucky he is that he found me online. He tells me that I don't need makeup because I am pretty already. I know that guys will do or say anything to get laid but so far he's been very respectful. Anyways, the bottom line is I now know that if a guy likes you he will pursue you and will not make you wait for three weeks and then insult you. Thank you again everyone! 1
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