heartbrokenkjl Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 (edited) I found this board by googling what to do when you still love him. I cant talk about it with my friends or family because they all hate my ex. We got together in December of 2010 and we moved in shortly after we met. We fell fast and in our whole 2 year relationship we only spent a week apart from one another. I was not perfect in the relationship. I was under a lot of stress at home and I would taken that out on him by going to bed early and not wanting to be intimate. He found relief in talking to other people on craigslist and even though I felt betrayed I couldn't necessarily blame him since he never cheated on me. We broke up once and he dated someone else but we got back together 2 months later. We got engaged in September of 2012 and we broke it off two days later when I was at my going away party and I wasn't wearing my engagement ring. It was not because I was trying to get attention from other guys but it was too big and kept falling off. Everytime it hit the table people would laugh and say my marriage was doomed. I put it in my purse where it was safe but when he showed up and saw I wasn't wearing it he wouldn't even let me explain. I let him leave so he could go cool off and I went to talk to a friend because as much as I knew he was emotionally abusive I loved him. When I finally admitted to everyone that he did put a gun to my head and choked me out in the garage one night that was enough for them, well that and the fact that he was on craiglist looking at men. I know what you are all saying that he was abusive and thank god I am away from that. I agree but that was only one side of him, a side that came out once every 4 or 5 months but something he knew he needed to get help for. I was his 3 fiancé and he has always blamed it on the girls cheating on him but it wasn't. When he moved out on September we said we were going to try and make it work because we never truly dated. By November he had another girlfriend back home in PA and it got nasty. I ended up going into the hospital and he broke into my house and stole a lot of my jewelry from my family and electronics. We ended up in this huge fight and I ended up getting a restraining order and a military protective order against him. In January he came back around told me he still loved me but didn't know if he could trust me. No one was willing to help me get my stuff back so I did what I had to do to prove he stole it and at least get my parents engagement rings back. I carried on an affair with him and even after his girlfriend found out she didn't care. About 2 months later I found out I was pregnant. By this time I was back with a guy I had dated 12 years prior and doing really well. Justin and me have always had something between us and I was happy. I was only thinking about Kyle in a negative way....until he messaged me one night asking me to meet him because he thought the gf was cheating on him. In reality she wasn't and he was planning on taking her on a trip we had planned and paid for together. He knew it would reel me back in and make me fall. After the incident in January I was over him quickly but now it has been 2 months and I still think about him and I still ache some nights because I miss him. I don't know if it is because I am pregnant with his child or what but how do you move on and finally let go of everything? I have him blocked on my phone but we both have gchat and I cant bring myself to block his name on there and he leaves status updates for me every once in a while. I don't sleep and I barely eat and I just feel so empty. I broke up with Justin because I knew it wasn't fair to him. Help! Edited July 16, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Eivuwan Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 You say things like there is a good side of him, but some things are taboo in a relationship. It doesn't matter how good he is to you at other times, but if he does something like put a gun to your head, I say run for your life. What is more important? Your life or him? Nobody here is going to say try to work things out with him. Everyone is going to say he's a total jerk and that you need to move on. I don't know what you're asking for. How to move on or how to get back with him.
Author heartbrokenkjl Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 How to move on. I don't want him back I want to be over him
Eivuwan Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Work on your mental and physical health by getting therapy, doing things you like, exercising, etc. Honestly, most of the time when people can't get over relationships is due to a lack of self-worth or self-respect. Working and improving yourself can help you gain some of that.
Eivuwan Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 And for the gchat thing. Go to your contacts and delete him from your list. I learned the hard way that that's the best way of removing people from gchat. If you just block him, you can easily unblock him. Removing him from your list will make him have to invite you to chat instead of just talking with you.
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