ajp2796 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Hi everyone, This is my first post on these forums. I was recently in a 2 month relationship with this girl from my school. She's 17 (going to be a junior) and I'm 18 (just graduated). We met at a dance, and we talked on and off for a month or so after that. I finally asked her out to lunch one day, and she gladly accepted. From our first date together, I really felt like we had a connection. We began to spend time with each other more and more, and I knew my feelings for her were real. She would always send me flirty text messages and we would call and talk to each other often. Eventually, we decided to become exclusive and she always seemed happy. I was her first boyfriend in 2 years; I met her family and her friends - they all really liked me and her friends told her they thought I was sweet and cute. Basically, it's your typical teenage love story. I was so sweet to her - I bought her flowers occasionally and on her birthday I bought her a nice present. Towards the end of the 2nd month of us being together, however, I felt my girlfriend growing somewhat distant. She would not seem too interested when she texted me (it wasn't always this way), but in person she showed all the right signs. I felt like something was bothering her but I didn't know how to ask her about it. After she went on a weekend trip to visit her female best friend, she said that "she felt like she was back to normal" and that she "wasn't herself lately." When she got back, I got the dreaded "we need to talk" text. I picked her up from her house and we had a long talk. She said when she visited her friend on that recent trip, she felt like her friend was always with her boyfriend. She went on to say that she kinda missed being single and she "doesn't want to be that girl who's always with her boyfriend." She also said she "thinks we should take a break" and says that I can see other people if I want. When we said goodbye that day, she kissed me and said "So I guess we'll see where we are in a couple months?" Basically it's been nearly 5 weeks since this has happened, and I have no contacted my (ex?) girlfriend since. Does she genuinely want a break, or is she trying to break up with me without hurting my feelings? Should I move on? I'm just confused because this girl is my first love and I care for her very much. Can any of you give me advice? Also, what was weird was that she didn't seem distant that night when she said that. In fact it was like things were just fine between us. What should I do? Should I implement NC?
flitzanu Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 you're doing good by not contacting her and sticking to NC. yes, she let you down easy, and you should consider that a breakup, and should move on with your life. don't sit around waiting thinking she is coming back.
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