Tk123 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Hey all, I don't know where else to post this so I feel I might as well post it here. So my family and I are in the process of moving to a new town. Our neighbors kindly invited us to a barbecue this weekend to get to know the other neighbors in town. The day before the party, I fell very ill and I could not attend however, my parents and brother still went to the party. They told me at the party there were lots of kids my age there (18-20 range), and that I missed out on a good time. I really wish I could have went but didn't have it in me. Now to get to the point of this thread. My mother and this one woman at the party (who has met me before) were talking, and in the middle of their conversation a young girl my age walked up to her. They started talking and before you know it they were talking about me to her. My parents came home that night from the party talking about this girl and how she's dying to meet me. She sounded like a good country girl, she is single, and she is only a year or two younger than me (I am 20). Today I was feeling better and went up to the house we're moving to. When we got there, coincidentally she was next door at the neighbors house helping them clean up from the night before. We stopped by to say hello, and I found her extremely attractive. We only stopped by for a quick 2-3 minutes because we had things to do. I shook her hand and smiled saying nice to meet you and she smiled back with the biggest smile. For the short period of time we were there, she didn't talk much and our neighbors did most of the talking with my parents. Things didn't go much further than a "Hello" and "Goodbye", and my parents said she seemed like a quiet/shy girl from the party that happened the previous night. Something tells me she is attracted to me and I definitely want to get to know her more. I wasn't able to get any phone number, and I felt weird attempting to flirt with her since my parents were right next to me. I found her on Facebook later that day, but didn't bother adding her because I felt it would be extremely creeperish to add her without her knowing nothing more than my first name. I am at a point where I want to do something about her and at least come to the point of becoming possibly good friends with this girl but don't know how to do it. Deep down, I know ultimately I want a relationship with this girl. I'm the type of guy that when I want something and put my mind to it, I try real hard to get it. I don't know what to do here. I know she lives in the same town as me but no idea where. She isn't at my neighbors house often either, I have been going up there almost every day for the past month and have only seen/heard about her these past two days. What would you do if you were in my shoes? Would you let things play out overtime and see if any more "encounters" occur, in hopes that I actually do have the chance to see her again? Do I add her on Facebook instead in hopes that she adds me back and do I start a conversation with her on there? I already know how I'm going to break the barrier I just don't know what to do at this point because she does not live directly next door to me. If I had the chance to actually have a conversation with her, I'd mention how I'm new to the town and really want to get to know my surroundings and ask her if she would show me around. Does this seem like a good "icebreaker"? I really could use some help here and any info/input would be appreciated!
Eggplant Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Look up her number. Call her. Introduce yourself as the guy from the party. Tell her you want to get to know her and invite her to a movie or coffee. It's not creepy to just directly invite her.
Author Tk123 Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Look up her number. Call her. Introduce yourself as the guy from the party. Tell her you want to get to know her and invite her to a movie or coffee. It's not creepy to just directly invite her. The problem is I didn't go to the party because I was sick, so I don't think it would make sense if I introduced myself like that to her. I'm contemplating adding her to Facebook because I only knew her first name, I think she would be weirded out if I added her because I'm not supposed to know her last name. Am I overthinking this?
Author Tk123 Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 So I'm thinking about adding her today, I just need an excuse to explain to her how I found her without knowing her last name. I'm a little unsure how to go about doing it!
eddyctv Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Can you convince your parents to have a barbeque, to invite all the new neighbors? She'll show up
Author Tk123 Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Can you convince your parents to have a barbeque, to invite all the new neighbors? She'll show up I don't think that's an option unfortunately.
Author Tk123 Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Well I got her added now, that was half the battle. I guess it's time to man up and have the convo with her!
Author Tk123 Posted July 16, 2013 Author Posted July 16, 2013 Well I went for it and it turned out great! We got plans to hang soon and exchanged numbers, glad I took the risk cause it really paid off!
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