UACmarine208 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 (edited) Title says it all. So a week and a half ago my girlfriend's grandfather passed away, he was 78 years old. She almost never tells me anything and expects me to know exactly how she feels, and I can tell how she feels by the way she's talking, but she really doesn't tell me why. I eventually talked her into telling me what happened and she told me her grandfather had passed away. She used to talk to me about her grandpa alot, I was really shocked and saddened when I heard this. She told me she wanted to be alone and so I gave her some time, I checked up on her a few times. A couple days later when she and I were playing WoW, she suddenly began to guilt trip me, she began to tell me how I wasn't there for her (She told me she wanted to be alone), like how I'm her stone, and how she's supposed to count on me to support her, and now she has nobody.. I tried to explain to her how much I love her and how she means the world to me, and I never meant for that, then she just blankly typed "Whatever, the damage is done," and now she won't even talk to me. The next day I tried talking to her the best I could, but she said nothing to me. I feel awful about this, but a little mad a the same time. I don't blame her for her frustration and emotions, not too long ago my own grandmother passed away, and I went through the exact same thing. I didn't know how to word this properly, and I did my best, I'm pretty bugged about all this and want some help. :/ Edited July 14, 2013 by UACmarine208
todreaminblue Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 there are many stages to grief........from what you have written, i gather, the death of her grandpa has really affected her........if she was really close to her grandpa it will affect her for quite a while.... it could be pushing her not to get close to you because you might leave her too....grief is extreme sadness.....anger.......and it isnt uncommon to push people away from you while grieving you get scared of losing them too.... your gf isnt thinking clearly her mind is in grief.......in my opinion maybe send her a handwritten card....tell her you love her, you know she is grieving and that you will always be there for her when she is ready, or, if ever she needs a hug just to call you and you will be there in whatever way you can........its the grief talking not your gf...she isnt herself.... the suggestion i have given...is for when your gf comes back from the sadness and anger she is going through, some people prefer to struggle alone with grief, afraid to get close to anyone in fear of loss of someone they deeply care about......best wishes.....deb.
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