Kristina24 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 We broke up almost a month ago. It was a mutual agreement because of distance. It was pretty hard for us. He would text me every single day after the break up, some days he'd act as if he were still my boyfriend, someday's quieter than usual, someday's friendly. Finally on July 3rd I told him we needed to stop texting for a while bc I needed time to get over him and that the only way we should be texting is if we were going to be together, he agreed to giving me my space and apologized. He texted me the very next day saying "Hope you're having a good fourth" I didn't want to be rude so I replied back "Thanks, hope you are too." He didn't text me on the 5th. He then texted me on the 6th, 7th, and 8th. 6th and 7th he was being really sensitive and mushy. On the 8th was a simple conversation... He hasn't tried contacting me since. Then this morning he delete's me from Facebook. Is it because he wants to give me my space? I'm really not understanding what he's doing here. Like why even bother contacting me after I asked you NOT to, to then just not contact me at all after contacting me 3 days straight to then delete me from facebook? Confused, upset and tired of being confused and upset.
aloneinaz Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 K- a big mistake for folks after a relationship ends is staying in contact. Look at how you're dealing with this. It simply drags on the pain and suffering vs. making a clean break, healing and finding someone new. I'm 6 weeks from my ex ending our toxic relationship. There's been ZERO contact and it's helped me heal, realize what a bad relationship it was and start dating again. I have no desire to hear from her ever again and she'll never hear from me either. As far as Facebook, you two should of deleted or blocked each other after it ended. You can't be "friends" with an ex so soon. I blocked my ex two days after we broke up and I had my things back in my possession. I did it cause seeing her on any media wouldn't help me cope or heal. He's probably doing the same thing. Cutting all ties so he can heal and move on. NC works to move on and heal. You need to stop worrying about why he did this or that cause IT DOESN'T MATTER. He's you ex. Focus the time on you and getting back to being you and finding your next significant relationship.
TaraMaiden Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 He doesn't break No Contact. you do. Just like someone knocking on your door, you just don't answer it - they go away. The only reason he 'breaks no Contact' is because you let him; you encourage him by responding and engaging with him. With bells on. Quit responding!
xilver Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 We broke up almost a month ago. It was a mutual agreement because of distance. It was pretty hard for us. He would text me every single day after the break up, some days he'd act as if he were still my boyfriend, someday's quieter than usual, someday's friendly. Finally on July 3rd I told him we needed to stop texting for a while bc I needed time to get over him and that the only way we should be texting is if we were going to be together, he agreed to giving me my space and apologized. He texted me the very next day saying "Hope you're having a good fourth" I didn't want to be rude so I replied back "Thanks, hope you are too." He didn't text me on the 5th. He then texted me on the 6th, 7th, and 8th. 6th and 7th he was being really sensitive and mushy. On the 8th was a simple conversation... He hasn't tried contacting me since. Then this morning he delete's me from Facebook. Is it because he wants to give me my space? I'm really not understanding what he's doing here. Like why even bother contacting me after I asked you NOT to, to then just not contact me at all after contacting me 3 days straight to then delete me from facebook? Confused, upset and tired of being confused and upset. He probably took some time to process what you told him. Went into denial and was sensitive and mushy with you to see how you would respond and maybe spark something. After all you told him you couldn't stay friends with him. That was probably hard for him and for whatever reason he is probably unsure whether you can be together. He probably wanted to delete the facebook right when you told him that but struggled with it for a few days.
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