Eggplant Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I like salsa. Salsa is gaining popularity. But I still want to lament the lack of couple dancing in American culture. I think dancing is a primal human way to meet mates. You can dance with very many people in one night and tell a lot about them in the course of a song. It's easy -- no pick-up line is required. Simply, "want to dance?" It's sexy -- even without bumping and grinding, dancing is usually sensual and turns people on. If you do want to drink at dance clubs, you still can, and you have entertainment watching dancers. And it is a way that people of all ages can go out and "party" or have a night out. It beats the h*** out of online dating. And it beats the h*** out of awkwardly sitting at a bar and just drinking. People are missing out. 1
sdraw108 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 I disagree. The kind of connections you form in that environment are shallow and meaningless. Easy come, easy go.
Author Eggplant Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 I disagree. The kind of connections you form in that environment are shallow and meaningless. Easy come, easy go.Where do you suggest instead?
smile1983 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 I like salsa. Salsa is gaining popularity. But I still want to lament the lack of couple dancing in American culture. I think dancing is a primal human way to meet mates. You can dance with very many people in one night and tell a lot about them in the course of a song. It's easy -- no pick-up line is required. Simply, "want to dance?" It's sexy -- even without bumping and grinding, dancing is usually sensual and turns people on. If you do want to drink at dance clubs, you still can, and you have entertainment watching dancers. And it is a way that people of all ages can go out and "party" or have a night out. It beats the h*** out of online dating. And it beats the h*** out of awkwardly sitting at a bar and just drinking. People are missing out. I agree that dancing is a fun way to meet people but also that the connections you make through it are not strong enough. There has to be more than just a dance. You have to go out with them afterward to get to know them if you like them.
Author Eggplant Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 I agree with the OP. I love dancing. I haven't met anyone while out dancing, but I have gone dancing with guys I was dating. That was fun, and led to really hot sex upon arriving home. I believe it can keep the passion alive in long-term relationships.
Author Eggplant Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 I agree that dancing is a fun way to meet people but also that the connections you make through it are not strong enough. There has to be more than just a dance. You have to go out with them afterward to get to know them if you like them. Absolutely you have to get to know them. But it does let you quickly meet a lot of people in a short time. And you can tell whether the physical part works a lot better than from online. And also brief conversation and etiquette or lack thereof help to give you a brief idea of the person. A 3-minute song is long enough to have an intro conversation. Also the dancing itself shows you something about the person's style.
JustJana Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 I love dancing & I wish there were more opportunity to do so. It's a great opportunity to meet people and if there's a spark you can always spend more time together, either talking or dancing more. 1
dasein Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Dancing of any kind is an attraction magnifier, and can really stir things up if there is basic attraction there already. Seen and experienced it hundreds of times. You don't even have to be good at it, no one is looking at the guy anyway, so you can just do a box step or move back and forth a little. The important things are in your eyes and the way you hold her and your posture. 1
nescafe1982 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 It certainly takes all the anxiety out of the approach. Man meets woman, "want to dance?" It's absolutely a great way to meet people and one which American sorely lacks. I hate clubs, though. I love dancing salsa, swing, that kind of thing. The bump-and-grind clubs are utterly lacking in romance and tact. As for dancing in LTRs, my BF and I go dancing semi-regularly; neither of us are very good but after a couple drinks, no-one cares anymore. And we switch it up, dance with other partners, etc. I honestly think he get juiced up seeing me dance with another man, and then come back to him... adds an element of the chase to it, I guess. 1
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