Sweett Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Met a guy and on our date he says he is separated. So after the date he's telling me what a nice time he had and he thought i was an awesome person and wanted to see me again. I said that i don't know if i would be open for that as he is separated and i don't wanna get attached to someone and then they tell me they are going back to their wife. He says he understands and respects that but says he will never go back to her because she cheated the entire marriage. I don't know what to think but in the back of my mind i'm thinking why don't u just divorce?? Am i being to close minded? I just prefer not to get attached to a separated man! I just can't! Has anyone else encountered something similar? What did u do!? I don't even think i'm that interestd in him.
FitChick Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Separated men are only good for affairs. They do not want anything serious. Wait until a man has been divorced at least two years before dating him. Next! 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I don't consider separated men dating material. 1
iris219 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I think I'm one of the few LSers who have dated a separated man and had it work out! My bf was separated when we first started dating. I was apprehensive at first but it became clear that their marriage had been over for awhile. We've been together for 7 months and things are great. Be cautious and don't get too attached until you figure out what's going on with this guy. Ask him when he's getting divorced. It looks like you live in a state that requires a one year separation before filing.
Eggplant Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Not a good idea. Talk to his wife. (Yes his wife). 1
k1rsty Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Met a guy and on our date he says he is separated. So after the date he's telling me what a nice time he had and he thought i was an awesome person and wanted to see me again. I said that i don't know if i would be open for that as he is separated and i don't wanna get attached to someone and then they tell me they are going back to their wife. He says he understands and respects that but says he will never go back to her because she cheated the entire marriage. I don't know what to think but in the back of my mind i'm thinking why don't u just divorce?? Am i being to close minded? I just prefer not to get attached to a separated man! I just can't! Has anyone else encountered something similar? What did u do!? I don't even think i'm that interestd in him. Dating a separated man is just asking for drama and aggro, even if it's just casual or for a fling. Not worth your time when there are so many single, available guys out there. And don't buy the "My spouse cheated I can never go back to them" line until he's actually divorced. Just take a look at the Infidelity Board right here, a lot of betrayed spouses go through a temporary separation before eventually going back to the wayward spouse to try to make the marriage work again. Some even use the time of separation to even the score with their WS, i.e sleep with other people, then get back with the WS. A few will even go so far as to file for divorce to 'shock' the WS spouse into realizing how their infidelity hurt the BS only to make up later down the road and stop the divorce proceedings. A separated man is a no-go, stay well clear.
Author Sweett Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 Dating a separated man is just asking for drama and aggro, even if it's just casual or for a fling. Not worth your time when there are so many single, available guys out there. And don't buy the "My spouse cheated I can never go back to them" line until he's actually divorced. Just take a look at the Infidelity Board right here, a lot of betrayed spouses go through a temporary separation before eventually going back to the wayward spouse to try to make the marriage work again. Some even use the time of separation to even the score with their WS, i.e sleep with other people, then get back with the WS. A few will even go so far as to file for divorce to 'shock' the WS spouse into realizing how their infidelity hurt the BS only to make up later down the road and stop the divorce proceedings. A separated man is a no-go, stay well clear. I agree. Seems like he's trying to play the victim...saying she cheated the entire time!! I'm thinking to myslf that he's probably lying.. Anyway i don't plan to see him again.
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Separated = married. So no, I would never consider it.
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