truth_seeker Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 So this girl sends me a FB request 3 months ago. We met thru friends. All of us go out one night to a concert and she asks me for my number. I find out at the concert one of the other guys in the group hooked up with her before. She's over it; he's not. Her and I talk on the phone after the concert and because the other guy started some problems because her and I were connecting, she backed off. She wanted to be friends but left the door open to something happening down the road (her words not mine). We flirted here and there on FB and I lost interest. I felt I was being strung along and decided it wasn't worth the effort talk to her. She started to post pics looking for attention and I ignored them. It got to the point I wrote comments saying her friends looked great but never mentioned her. I know, immature, but the attention seeking was a bit out of control. Things got interesting when her cousin, whom I met once briefly, came to where I work and asked to speak to me. He asked me why I went silent and if I had a girlfriend now. I was a little freaked out by this but took it as the girl really liked me and he was finding out for her. I told one of my friends, who knows both the girl and her cousin very well, about the visit to my work and he told me I should ask her out. Now is the time. So I called her up and asked her out. She said no. She was kinda rude and even told me she could date me but felt it wasn't worth it. I felt she was being nasty on purpose. I spoke to my friends about this and they think me complimenting her girlfriends on FB and not her was the reason. This actually possible? I don't think I missed out on much but now there's a division in our group since she rejected me. I'm still in shock as I was encouraged to ask her out. Any opinions?
sdraw108 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Sending the cousin round and then rejecting you, sounds too weird. I think it was a set up, and she was out to get some kind of petty revenge on you.
Author truth_seeker Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 She's on my Facebook as a top friend. I never go to her page. Should I delete her? One of my friend's thinks its not over and she will come around.
New User Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 She's on my Facebook as a top friend. I never go to her page. Should I delete her? One of my friend's thinks its not over and she will come around. Personally, yeah- I'd delete her. Even if she "comes around" why would you want to deal with someone who has already showed themselves to be a high conflict risk? There are plenty of other gals out there- I wouldn't waste anymore time on this one.
Author truth_seeker Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Personally, yeah- I'd delete her. Even if she "comes around" why would you want to deal with someone who has already showed themselves to be a high conflict risk? There are plenty of other gals out there- I wouldn't waste anymore time on this one. I share a close friend with her. I'm afraid if I do it, it will cause more harm. Should I do it regardless?
sdraw108 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 What's a "top friend"? If you want to stop her showing up on your news feed, you can "hide" one of her stories, and you get a menu where you can "unsubscribe" from them.
Author truth_seeker Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 What's a "top friend"? If you want to stop her showing up on your news feed, you can "hide" one of her stories, and you get a menu where you can "unsubscribe" from them. The little boxes at the top. She appears in there. Top row. I read that it means those are the people who view your page the most.
Author truth_seeker Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Sending the cousin round and then rejecting you, sounds too weird. I think it was a set up, and she was out to get some kind of petty revenge on you. Petty revenge for complimenting her friends and not her on her photos? If that's the case, what an insecure b*tch!
New User Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 I share a close friend with her. I'm afraid if I do it, it will cause more harm. Should I do it regardless? I would. Your mileage may vary. You should probably understand that I'm from an older generation and am well past the point where I feel the need to indulge in the kind of games that she is playing. So, yeah- I'd block her and I wouldn't be concerned about how the friend would react. As always though- the decision is yours. Of course you could always just unsubscribe from her feed. Or whatever it's called where there still on your friend's list but you don't see their posts.
Author truth_seeker Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 I would. Your mileage may vary. You should probably understand that I'm from an older generation and am well past the point where I feel the need to indulge in the kind of games that she is playing. So, yeah- I'd block her and I wouldn't be concerned about how the friend would react. As always though- the decision is yours. Of course you could always just unsubscribe from her feed. Or whatever it's called where there still on your friend's list but you don't see their posts. I might do the unsubscribe option. I avoid her and she can stalk my page all she wants. I'm just floored that I was encouraged to ask her out, thinking it was a go, then getting blasted by her. smh
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