never pursue guys! they run away lmao

[rana-rana]

for real!

 

we tried this yesterday as a test all day on like 5-6 guys and they all act so weird like they don't know what to say lol.

 

I asked this guy for the time then after he tells me I ask him about his cute new phone and he like just says yea and walks away.

 

this same lame dude comes back after watching me for a hot min and wants to know if he can get my math? nah too late lol.

 

another dude pretending like he don't see me when i'm standing in front of him trying to get his attention so I say **** it and ask him where can we find the closest pizza shop and he shrugs and walks away.

 

this same lame dude comes back and now knows where the pizza shop is and now he trying to make convo with me and telling me how pretty I am?

 

nah too late lol.

 

another guy does the same thing and then hangs around and stares after the fact. LAME!!

 

so we figured out that u cant approach dudes cuz they get scared/confused or plain dumb lol.

 

so all my ladies just let the fellas hit ya'll up 1st since that's what they all programmed to do anyhow.

[RebelWithoutACause]

Chatting up a guy is not the same as pursuing someone. Who knows why those guys got weirded out by you. Maybe you were aggressive or they were intimidated. In any event, I think most men would like to be approached by a woman. I hope.

[Keenly]

What you are doing is randomly hitting on guys in public. Then you are rejecting them when they figure out what you are doing. Calling this a pursuit is false. I'd call it more of being a tease.

[KathyM]

I think it was kind of a funny experiment, and I do believe a lot of men are scared when a woman boldly approaches them. They don't quite know what to do about it. And it doesn't change as they get older either. But in all fairness, women can be clueless about a guy's intentions at first, as well. I know I'm a little slow on the uptake when being hit on because I'm just not thinking in those terms when out somewhere, since I'm not interested and don't notice men generally, since I'm married. Various men have asked me questions at the grocery store, and I didn't realize they were actually hitting on me until some time later. That was before I realized the grocery store is a meat market (pun intended). So it's not just men that are clueless about if someone is hitting on them and it takes them a few minutes to figure it out. It's women also.

[New User]

Your sample size is too small to be statistically relevant. Try at least a thousand approaches and report back.

[Eve]

I am so 1980's that I would probably vomit on the floor before I could ask someone out. I seriously don't think I could do that.

 

I think you are very brave OP and your post made me laugh.

 

Kathy - I just think men are being 'nice' until the killer line of approach appears. I walk around with an expectation that everyone knows I am married, lol.

 

Take care,

Eve x

[ddlovexx]

This is possibly one of the oddest posts I've ever read on here... maybe you need to find some new hobbies.

[KathyM]

I am so 1980's that I would probably vomit on the floor before I could ask someone out. I seriously don't think I could do that.

 

I think you are very brave OP and your post made me laugh.

 

Kathy - I just think men are being 'nice' until the killer line of approach appears. I walk around with an expectation that everyone knows I am married, lol.

 

Take care,

Eve x

When I do realize they are hitting on me and I tell them I am married, that doesn't seem to deter them. They then ask "Are you happily married?"

[nerd]

Plenty of men and women ready to have affairs, so it's a legitimate question

[KathyM]

Plenty of men and women ready to have affairs, so it's a legitimate question

Nah, people shouldn't be propositioning married strangers who are just trying to get their errands done. That's pretty lame.

[NYC-BigKat]

What you are doing is randomly hitting on guys in public. Then you are rejecting them when they figure out what you are doing. Calling this a pursuit is false. I'd call it more of being a tease.

 

Yup yup! its so so obvious that u know they think u really really pretty but u wanna see how they react when u come to them so u play games. I hate it when girls do this 'cause I had it done to me .

[rana-rana]

Yup yup! its so so obvious that u know they think u really really pretty but u wanna see how they react when u come to them so u play games. I hate it when girls do this 'cause I had it done to me .

 

nah I aint teasing them papi. I just fully realize now that guys wanna chase and get what they cant have.

 

cuz as soon as I wasn't available anymore for them to mess with they stood there staring, wishing, and wanting lmao.

[MrCastle]

Asking a guy for the time, or the nearest pizza place is not approaching them in a romantic sense. They more than likely just took it at face value. You can't take every little thing as a sign of interest. They were probably looking for something more, or have you considered that they did in fact pick up on this approach but were not interested in you? Hence they didn't push the conversation further?

[Eve]

When I do realize they are hitting on me and I tell them I am married, that doesn't seem to deter them. They then ask "Are you happily married?"

 

 

Lol, maybe we need to share where we shop to give us a break! Still I love watching nice, wanted advances. People watching is great! Very funny at times.

 

Take care,

Eve x

[NYC-BigKat]

nah I aint teasing them papi. I just fully realize now that guys wanna chase and get what they cant have.

 

cuz as soon as I wasn't available anymore for them to mess with they stood there staring, wishing, and wanting lmao.

 

Yes u was teasing them 'cause if u really really liked the guys u would've did more than just asking for the time & standing around for no reason. I think u just wanted attention & u probably do this all the time like so many others be doing now .

[Woggle]

Men don't expect it so it sort o f comes as a shock.

[Keenly]

nah I aint teasing them papi. I just fully realize now that guys wanna chase and get what they cant have.

 

cuz as soon as I wasn't available anymore for them to mess with they stood there staring, wishing, and wanting lmao.

 

You really have no idea what you are doing.

 

 

Maybe a little into yourself and a little delusional too.

 

I mean, you walked up to a GUY and told him his phone was "cute" . What did you expect him to say? "AWWW THANKKKKSSS I got it at the mall, lets go shopping sometime?"

[NYC-BigKat]

You really have no idea what you are doing.

 

 

Maybe a little into yourself and a little delusional too.

 

I mean, you walked up to a GUY and told him his phone was "cute" . What did you expect him to say? "AWWW THANKKKKSSS I got it at the mall, lets go shopping sometime?"

 

Yea u gotta do more if u wanna call it pursue u know .

[fortyninethousand322]

for real!

 

we tried this yesterday as a test all day on like 5-6 guys and they all act so weird like they don't know what to say lol.

 

I asked this guy for the time then after he tells me I ask him about his cute new phone and he like just says yea and walks away.

 

this same lame dude comes back after watching me for a hot min and wants to know if he can get my math? nah too late lol.

 

another dude pretending like he don't see me when i'm standing in front of him trying to get his attention so I say **** it and ask him where can we find the closest pizza shop and he shrugs and walks away.

 

this same lame dude comes back and now knows where the pizza shop is and now he trying to make convo with me and telling me how pretty I am?

 

nah too late lol.

 

another guy does the same thing and then hangs around and stares after the fact. LAME!!

 

so we figured out that u cant approach dudes cuz they get scared/confused or plain dumb lol.

 

so all my ladies just let the fellas hit ya'll up 1st since that's what they all programmed to do anyhow.

 

Sounds like you were playing a game.

.

 

Seriously though, it doesn't sound like you really wanted to date any of those guys, so why do you care if they weren't receptive to you?

[charlietheginger]

for real!

 

we tried this yesterday as a test all day on like 5-6 guys and they all act so weird like they don't know what to say lol.

 

I asked this guy for the time then after he tells me I ask him about his cute new phone and he like just says yea and walks away.

 

this same lame dude comes back after watching me for a hot min and wants to know if he can get my math? nah too late lol.

 

another dude pretending like he don't see me when i'm standing in front of him trying to get his attention so I say **** it and ask him where can we find the closest pizza shop and he shrugs and walks away.

 

this same lame dude comes back and now knows where the pizza shop is and now he trying to make convo with me and telling me how pretty I am?

 

nah too late lol.

 

another guy does the same thing and then hangs around and stares after the fact. LAME!!

 

so we figured out that u cant approach dudes cuz they get scared/confused or plain dumb lol.

 

so all my ladies just let the fellas hit ya'll up 1st since that's what they all programmed to do anyhow.

 

You open the conversation.... Guys walk away then

Think hey maybe she was interested and goback to

You..

 

 

If a women ask me where a pizza shop is i assume

She is looking for pizza.....

 

The guy with his cute phone may have had a girlfriend

Just how it is....

 

Maybe your approach is off. Try starting a real conversation

Like

" hey im looking for a close pizza shop im new in town and don't

know many people"

 

"or hey thats a cool phone where did you get it at.

Where ?I dont know where thats at hey heres my facebook

Can you message me the place thanks

[Southern Cal Dude]

Men don't expect it so it sort o f comes as a shock.

 

 

This. They're dumbfounded because it never happens. If you were never approached and some guy came up to you like that, you'd be a little offguard as well.

[TheZebra]

This. They're dumbfounded because it never happens. If you were never approached and some guy came up to you like that, you'd be a little offguard as well.

 

They were caught off guard and then when they realized what was happening they came back to her and she shrugged them off... seems like men ARE interested when you talk to them.

 

And I'll backup what some other posters said about your approach.. it seemed kind of weird.

[Sabian]

I would absolutely love a girl showing interest and "pursuing" me. An experiment with 6 random guys is not exactly proof of anything. Half of them were probably in relationships, and the others could have had other things on their mind.

 

 

Girls. Don't listen to advice like this. If a guy is so misogynistic that he can't let a girl make the first move than he isn't worth it.

 

I've had girls ask me for my number and it makes my day. Plus I usually call them.

 

 

 

Oh...and don't assume every guy wants to date you. They don't. It's pretty vain of you to think that any guy you walk up to should be attracted to you.