Odradek Posted October 23, 2004 Posted October 23, 2004 Alright, simple and straight to the point. I've known this girl from college for about two years. We met at first and we instantly clicked. The first conversation we ever had lasted for more than two hours and it was just AWESOME. I was instantly utterly hypnotized by her and I developed this really bad crush on her. That faded away after a while, since we didn't see each other so often. Ever since 6 months ago, we've developed this really great friendship. We hang out together a lot and finish each other sentences quite often, we also team up for most projects in college, in short, we get along just great. BUT (there's always a but, isn't there) the thing is she's had this boyfriend for over 4 years. This guy is like a son to her parents, as so is she to his. Their families have been really close for centuries and stuff, and they're sort of reponsible for setting the two of them up, and really expect them to get married. But now, she says she's realized they're way too different and that she doesn't see the point in keeping up the relationship. And in case you're having trouble putting two and two together, I've developed quite deep feelings for her after getting to know her for some time. We just have so much in common and so many things to talk about and have so much fun together, and...well, you know the rest. So she's coming to me for advice, tellling me about all of their problems, and complaining about how she CAN'T do with HIM all the things SHE AND I do. Still, I don't know if there's an interest on her part. So, should I say something? On one hand, I don't wanna mess up our friendship, nor do I want to lose my study partner. On the other hand, this thing is just growing inside of me and so many feelings are bottling up inside that I feel like I'm gonna explode if I don't say something quick (although writing it all on loveshack really helps). C'mon guys, give me a hand here.
disconcertainly Posted October 23, 2004 Posted October 23, 2004 To me this is something she needs to do b/c she is unhappy with him not b/c of you. If I were you just keep your feelings inside for a little while. This is something that she needs no distractions so she can see the real light.
DaiseyEyes Posted October 26, 2004 Posted October 26, 2004 I think you should wait. Best possible outcome if you tell her? She breaks up with him and gets together with you. Sounds good, but I strongly believe that people need a bit of time before getting into another relationship. Not to mention the resentment her family may feel towards you. Just be there for her and try to stay strong!
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