He doesnt know if he likes me cause he has been lonely or if he really likes me

[askelina]

So this guy I have been talking to and really started to like has told me that he doesn't know if he likes me cause he just likes me or if he just likes me cause he has been lonely for a while. At first i told he to date other but he said its weird cause he want to see how "this" plays out but then he later on he said he might go and date. Also he did not say he doesn't find me physically attractive but he never told me i am pretty and said "there is something in every women i find attractive" So i conclude he is not in love with me, he does not have that butterfly in the stomach feeling. And i think that i want the man with to at least in the begging have that feeling cause over time that feeling will fade but if he never had it someday someone will com along that will give him that feeling and he will feel empty with me. And also i believe love is blind and if you love a person that person if beautiful too you. NOW I KNOW I'm not even a 6.5 but i mean there have been men that were attracted to me and made all those romantic gestures in the past. this guy has not still he keeps asking me if i like him and what i look for in a man ect ect. So i thought till yesterday that he was in love with me and I was waiting for him to say it. Anyhow yesterday he told me like i said before 1) he think that i think he is to young for me so he must date others to get some experience and know what he really wants, 2) then he said he doesn't know if he likes me because he has been lonely or because he really likes me. And it really broke my heart and i feel like i have this dilemma now SHOULD I FORGET HIM AND MOVE ON or NOT???? also I dont know if this is relevant but he is 21 and has never been in long serious relationship. I am 25 and got out of a 9 year relationship which was more a storge/pragma kind of love. I really feel like I need an combination of eros and pragma now i don't think i can feel happy without some eros. Now i am the kind of person that needs to totally forget about someone in order to be able to date others, so pls tell me what you think should i forget this guy or should i give him some time and wait????

Edited July 14, 2013 by askelina

[PogoStick]

You should not give him more than he gives you. Tell him he is right and you are going to date other people too. I bet he will get jealous. Do not give in though, he has not earned it.

 

If you need to cut him completely to date others then do so. Otherwise, I suggest you casually date a few people and let the best man win.