starlet86 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I am feeling so frustrated with everything today. I can't help but feel like this is mostly my own fault for wanting my ex to prove me wrong. The more I think of things though I realise he vacated the relationship long ago, but I can't get why he kept me around for so long if he really didn't see a future with me. I mean he cut me off pretty quickly because of an argument. He owes me a lot of money and I have texts and emails that state he will pay me back etc, now I am starting to think I wont ever see that money again. As I have written emails and texts between us stating it was not a gift and he did in actual fact borrow the money from me would it appear that I am being bitter or trying to find a way of speaking to him if I ask him when he plans to repay the money? It is a hell of a lot of money, in the thousands region. If he doesn't pay back am I able to seek legal advice with this proof that it wasn't a gift? NC really makes things hard. I also can't help but miss him so much today.
Legatus Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 When it comes to material things like money owed I think you have to break NC, unless you have a friend who could see you ex and ask for the money. Otherwise you have to talk to him but only about the matter in hand, and as soon as you get it back, just walk away
lessica Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 If it was a lot of money, and you have proof of it, you can attempt to get it back, but it would be quite the hassle. Worth discussing on maybe a legal help forum or finance forum?? It is a sucky situation. I am bitter about a tiny bit of money, well his share of last weeks rent and bills, that he promised to pay. Cancelled payment immediately. I got it back off him by sucking up big time when he collected some of his belongings. I remember my dad saying "its a small price to pay to get rid of a problem" ie him the problem. When it is a lot of money, I would be bitter as ****, I don't blame you at all!
Author starlet86 Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 It is a rather significant amount of money. From what I've read I can go to a small claims court with the evidence I have. I lent him the money in good faith, but now I feel that part of his sudden desire to cut all ties with me is also so he can skip out on paying me back. I sent a general email stating that I would like to set up a payment arrangement between us if possible. I just feel like he's manipulated and used me at every turn and it is my own fault because I let him. I was stupid but when he was giving it the "I don't want to lose you completely" and his actions were matching what he was saying I believed him. Strange once he no longer has any use for me his actions stop matching what he is saying apart from when he tells me to give him space and then doesn't speak to me unless it is to ask me to perform sexual acts on him.
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