lessica Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I am curious, was with him for 7 years, from when we were 18. We matured, but I feel I became quite dependent, and so did he in certain ways. It caused a lot of conflict. I understand gigs. But I am wondering if this young relationship is something that will raise more doubt, and desire for independence, than it would have if you had met when you were older, and more mature. Although I am heartbroken that he has left, a part of me knows exactly how he feels. And I want the space too, despite being in love with him. It makes me wonder if it is maybe possible to have someone really be in love with you, and want to be with you, but still leave.
Echo000 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 It is possible.. Sometimes the outside pressure builds up. We are told to "enjoy our youths" and society in part often seems enjoyment as being with more than one person over those years. Just lost my first love for good, we are both young. Both loved each other. Hard to handle. Hard to accept. And hard to move on from 1
flitzanu Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 all of what you said is possible, yes, but the part that you should be paying attention to is the "...and still leave". 1
whyme76 Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 I am curious, was with him for 7 years, from when we were 18. We matured, but I feel I became quite dependent, and so did he in certain ways. It caused a lot of conflict. I understand gigs. But I am wondering if this young relationship is something that will raise more doubt, and desire for independence, than it would have if you had met when you were older, and more mature. Although I am heartbroken that he has left, a part of me knows exactly how he feels. And I want the space too, despite being in love with him. It makes me wonder if it is maybe possible to have someone really be in love with you, and want to be with you, but still leave. When I was 21 I met someone & we were together for 14 years. We are both near 40 and after 14 years he ended up cheating on me with a 23 year old, while we were planning a wedding. So yes, I would say that getting so serious with someone when you are very young can be a mistake. A mistake that I always look back on with regrets of the time I feel was wasted, and wondering what I missed out on? Obviously he regreted it too - cheating with a 23 yr old it seems he was trying to recapture his youth and feel like he was back in his 20s. Even as he was packing his things to leave me, he kept telling me he loves me. And then left. I'm not saying a LTR is always doomed when you get together young. But look how many people are in their late 20s and early 30s and are already divorced. 1
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