mia5 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 This is my story.... I've been married for 20 years. My kids are grown, my youngest is 15. I married my highschool sweetheart at 19. To make a very long story short, we grew up very fast, started a family very young. He worked nights I worked days in order to stay with the kids, we did that for many years. The last 10 to 8 years things started to change after he started working days. We got to "really" know each other. He's drinking started to get heavier and more frequent, we got into more arguments. The last 3 years or so has been hell. His drinking is worse and now has become aggressive and violent towards me and the kids. There has been physical confrontations and the next day, does not remember any of his actions which infuriates me because he's either acting stupid which tells me he has no respect for me and the kids or he really does not remember which scares me cause that could be dangerous. The thing is he starts accosting me for any reason, I ignore him, he continues pushing me around...I finally get tired and really let him have it, and I leave him bleeding...not proud of this but im only defending myself and my kids because he goes after them too. Police have came out to our house one occasion and didnt do nothing but im afraid that they will come out again and see him then I will get in trouble, but im only defending myself... but i see what he does now he pushes me til I cant it take no more then threatens to call police. The respect, trust is gone. I have tried talking to him but he does not see his drinking as a problem, everyone sees it except him. The last 2 months I have met a wonderful man. He is a police officer. He deals with domestic violence issues. We started talking and become good friends....now it has become more than that. Being with him is like breathing fresh air for the first time, He is so different totally opposite of my husband. I"m not comparing but drinking even socially is something I dread in anyone I would, if ever get involved with someone new, and he does not drink not even socially.Theres so many pros with him....I am ready to walk away and divorce my husband..the only thing that stops me is my youngest son. He is at a very difficult age don't know if staying or leaving his dad would do more harm. He has seen me and his father argue and fight and I know that's very unhealthy for him and I feel awful for that. I just don't know what to do. I feel trapped I don't love my husband no more, but feel like I should stay married for the sake of my youngest, but then I feel like I am at a good age(38)to restart a new life with someone that makes me happy. I just want have peace in my heart, my soul, in my home....your home is suppose to be your sanctuary...but when theres an alcoholic it becomes hell....
almond Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Separate from him immediately, and divorce him. This will be MUCH better for both you and your children - I guarantee it.
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