Sweett Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I think i have a difficult time with rejection. Every since my ex cheated and left me for the girl it has only made my feelings of rejection worse. Makes me feel unlovable, empty, and like i can't do anything right all because one person chose to do this to me. After my ex, i met another guy who also rejected me in a sense and i don't know why he just stopped taking my calls and this guy appeared to me to be an alcoholic loser (got wasted on our date) and i later found out that he still lives with his mom but yet still the thought he rejected me hurts. People say when someone rejects us they shouldn't be in our lives anyway and we are better off without them and its their loss! Is this how you who is reading this look at it!? This is so tough for me... I know i don't deserve a cheater or an alcoholic but with the rejection I almost feel broken in a sense. 1
lessica Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I am really sorry... I don't deal wit rejection well either. It is like I would want to save a bad relationship to protect my pride. I have recently been rejected by someone that is quite frankly awful. And I am heart broken. It makes no sense. I could say aim for someone who puts you on a pedestal.. but unfortunately that won't work for your happiness either. I feel like I am personal attracted to people that are bad for me. I don't know why, but I am, even though I know it is wrong. It is possible this is not about anything other than you putting yourself in positions where rejection is highly possible. I mean someone that gets wasted on a date and lives with his mom has likely got issues, and would either reject others, or be rejected by others. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I too have the most trouble with the rejection. You are not alone!!! Very large, jagged pill to swallow... But it must be done!! 1
Leegh Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Yes, rejection is indeed hard, but please remember that everyone has been rejected at one time or another, even movie stars. An option is for you to reject the rejection and/or just take a day at a time and the rejection will fade with time. Most of us get over things with time. You sound like a great person, and better things are to come for you. Also, remember that people who reject people, get rejected themselves also, so no one is immune to rejection. 1
Frank13 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 After my ex, i met another guy who also rejected me in a sense and i don't know why he just stopped taking my calls and this guy appeared to me to be an alcoholic loser (got wasted on our date) and i later found out that he still lives with his mom but yet still the thought he rejected me hurts. Sometimes people reject you so you don't reject them first. This guy may have liked you but thought you would never be interested in a guy who lives with his mom. So he ended things before you could find out and reject him. Sometimes people just don't want a relationship, so they end things before it gets to that. 3
Author Sweett Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 Sometimes people reject you so you don't reject them first. This guy may have liked you but thought you would never be interested in a guy who lives with his mom. So he ended things before you could find out and reject him. Sometimes people just don't want a relationship, so they end things before it gets to that. Wow!! My therapist told me this and at first i thought it was ridiculous but to hear it again... Has me thinking. I have my own home and have been on my own for years. This guy knew that... So do u think this may have intimidated him? If so, he has a lot of growing up to do i would think.
Author Sweett Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 I too have the most trouble with the rejection. You are not alone!!! Very large, jagged pill to swallow... But it must be done!! Does it make u feel broken? I have my moments where it just has me in tears ... Then other times i tell myself i am better off without them especially these 2 men that i mentioned!! 1
Eivuwan Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Sometimes I think it's partly just gathering life experiences and growing up. For example, as we age we would be accepted by others many times and rejected by others many times. Then rejections wouldn't seem like such a big deal. Just remember that there are 6 billion people out there and not all of them will like you. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Easy... When she said "its not you, its me". I came to the realization that she was 100% RIGHT and not just saying that to make me feel better!! TFY 1
Author Sweett Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 Sometimes I think it's partly just gathering life experiences and growing up. For example, as we age we would be accepted by others many times and rejected by others many times. Then rejections wouldn't seem like such a big deal. Just remember that there are 6 billion people out there and not all of them will like you. Maybe, but when someone tells me i am beautiful and have a beautiful personality but get wasted on our date and stops taking my calls is just hurtful to me. I don't expect all people to like me but i don't know the situation with this person is really hurting me. Doesn't sound like he respected me by getting waste but i can't seem to let go and i keep asking myself what did i do!! Worrying about why someone who lives with his mom doesn't accept me !
Author Sweett Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 Easy... When she said "its not you, its me". I came to the realization that she was 100% RIGHT and not just saying that to make me feel better!! TFY Good point, wish it was that easy for me 2
Eivuwan Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Yes, as humans having a thick skin is easier said than done, especially if you're the sensitive sort. I think sometimes having an understanding of other people makes you realize that human beings do contradictory and ****ty things all the time and that it's not about you. My issue was that I was too focus on understanding others and did not have enough self-compassion. Perhaps you should have more compassion for yourself and also realize that other people might have ****ed up lives that make them do ****ed up things and it's really not about you. Do you have any idea why other people's opinions affect you so much? 1
Author Sweett Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 Yes, as humans having a thick skin is easier said than done, especially if you're the sensitive sort. I think sometimes having an understanding of other people makes you realize that human beings do contradictory and ****ty things all the time and that it's not about you. My issue was that I was too focus on understanding others and did not have enough self-compassion. Perhaps you should have more compassion for yourself and also realize that other people might have ****ed up lives that make them do ****ed up things and it's really not about you. Do you have any idea why other people's opinions affect you so much? U pose that question and that is something i really need to think about. I always hear people tell me its them not u and most people not in my situation can look at it and say i'd be better off and they wouldn't give either of the guys i mentioned a second thought ..its just getting myself to the point of believing it.
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