What do you make of this?

[GGav]

Sorry in advance for the essay.

 

So me and my girlfriend of 3 and a half years broke up the other day, she said that she felt that we each needed to sort out our own lives, and that she not longer had the same feelings for me that she once had. She did however say that she hopes that we can rebuild our relationship from the foundations again and hopefully get back together. We are currently living together as we tied into a lease for the flat until November, when we plan to both move out. To give you a little back story, we recently moved to a new city in order for her to progress her career, weve been living here for nearly a year but i have struggled to settle, finding it hard to make friends, interests, and a job. Most of the day Ill be at home studying (doing part time university online) and relaxing. She has settled in well to her new job making friends etc.. However over the last 2 months things have become rocky, she no longer wanted to have sex and she has become extremely close to a male colleague. She would come home from work at 10pm go for a run for 45 mins then just sit on facebook talking to him until 2-3am+. She gained an interest in working out and losing weight. About 2-3 weeks she told me she was going out for drinks after working with a gay friend (so i was told), however I got a call at about 3am from the male collegue (mentioned earlier) asking me to come pick her up since she was drunk. When i picked her up she couldnt keep her hands off him. The next day I asked her if there was anything going on between her and him (I know she would never cheat on me) but if she had a crush on him. She kept saying there was nothing going on and she didnt like him in that way and never would. I said it wasnt normal for someone to spend that much time talking to a friend, especially when she saw him all day at work and talked every night until the sun came up. The next day I used her phone to get a number and noticed that she had deleted all her messages to this guy but I didnt ask her about that since I didnt want her to think i had been deliberately snooping ( accidentally came across it!). Anyways fast forward to the other day when she said we need to talk. She felt that we had lost touch and that it would be best if we were to break up and each try to find ourselves and sort out our lives. She hopes that we can get back together in the future, but in the last few days I feel like she might be stringing me on and trying to let me down easy. She said she isnt interested in sex at the moment and isnt looking to get with other guys but i guess i just need a second opinion.

 

Again, sorry for the long winded post and thanks for any replies.

 

Ggav

[lessica]

I really don't want to draw any conclusions- because I really am not sure. But I do know what it feels like to wonder if we are being strung along. And it sucks. I am in the same position right now.. and all I can say is I am starting to think that wondering where you stand and how things will be is a waste of time. We are better off trying to move on and not think about it. The alternative is torture.

[mtnbiker3000]

I really don't want to draw any conclusions- because I really am not sure. But I do know what it feels like to wonder if we are being strung along. And it sucks. I am in the same position right now.. and all I can say is I am starting to think that wondering where you stand and how things will be is a waste of time. We are better off trying to move on and not think about it. The alternative is torture.

 

You are absolutely 100% correct. Move on!!!

[bluegreen]

She is cheating or well on her way to do so.

All classic signs are there so its time to move on