Bars/clubs

[beautifulstalker]

Just a general question:

 

Do you ladies & gentleman go out to the bars/clubs with out your husbands/wives?

 

I am asking this because, I am 23, my husband is turning 21 this year. I've been over the age of '21' for 2 years and have never been a club/bar person. We're moving to a different state next month where I know nobody. He has all his single work friends that like to go out and drink and go to strip clubs and I am afraid when he turns 21 he is going to go out all the time with him. Unfortunately with his job, he travels an awful lot, so I will never know when he is going out or what he is doing.

 

I tried to bring this up with him tonight and he just started yelling at me infront of his work friend(He is married and a cheater) I dislike this man.. maybe i'm just being paranoid but, i'm not sure how to prevent him into turning into a giant man whore.

[in_absentia]

Why did you marry him if you are worried that as soon as he's legally able, he'll start cheating on you left right and centre?

 

Your opening lines make it sound like you're desperately hoping you can accompany him to the bars and clubs, in order to keep an eye on him. Honey, if he wants to cheat he will cheat. You can't babysit him 24/7.

[MissBee]

Why did you marry him if you are worried that as soon as he's legally able, he'll start cheating on you left right and centre?

 

Your opening lines make it sound like you're desperately hoping you can accompany him to the bars and clubs, in order to keep an eye on him. Honey, if he wants to cheat he will cheat. You can't babysit him 24/7.

 

Ditto.

 

The ship has sailed already, but I don't think most 20 year old guys are mature enough to be married to one woman forever. Marrying before you're even legal to drink isn't a good idea in my book.

 

But in any case, you can't prevent him from being a whore. That's his decision to make. In good marriages, each spouse protects their marriage and choose what to do and not to do. I am more concerned that he was yelling at you in front of his cheating friend...that's very disrespectful and uncalled for.

[pteromom]

All you can do is share the way you feel, let him make his own decisions, then react.

 

You can't control someone into being faithful.

 

As far as your original question, I don't go out to bars/clubs because it isn't interesting to me, but if it was, sure, I would go without my husband.

 

However - I wouldn't go to strip clubs and I wouldn't be cheating.

[Dread Pirate Roberts]

Ditto.

 

The ship has sailed already, but I don't think most 20 year old guys are mature enough to be married to one woman forever. Marrying before you're even legal to drink isn't a good idea in my book.

 

But in any case, you can't prevent him from being a whore. That's his decision to make. In good marriages, each spouse protects their marriage and choose what to do and not to do. I am more concerned that he was yelling at you in front of his cheating friend...that's very disrespectful and uncalled for.

 

I don't think most 20 year old girls are mature enough to be married either.

[Dread Pirate Roberts]

All you can do is share the way you feel, let him make his own decisions, then react.

 

You can't control someone into being faithful.

 

As far as your original question, I don't go out to bars/clubs because it isn't interesting to me, but if it was, sure, I would go without my husband.

 

However - I wouldn't go to strip clubs and I wouldn't be cheating.

 

I don't like strip clubs. I don't see the point. Not much into the bar/club scene, but going to a pub with live music and food is good fun. I love to sing.

[Woggle]

I hang out with my friends at bars but I just shoot pool with them and never cheat. Most of the places I hang out without my wife are pretty much sausage fests anyway.

[T3h L337 d00d]

It's normal to go out to bars with your friends with out your gf or wife. It's not normal to go to strip clubs or pick up night clubs emphasis on night clubs.