Omei Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 okay so I started making out, spending a lot of time with a guy my question is very simple im trying to move on 4 months after a 5 year breakup and sometimes it makes me feel good other times I worry im going in too soon, I dont feel butterflies with this guy or any sweet feelings towards him I love his company tho, his last gf was 5 years ago I JUST found out and since hes 23 years old i assume hes never had a serious relationship now im scared of them getting attached when I dont feel like a commitment right now, my question is since I dont feel a strong desire with feelings should I stop now before he does? Or should I stay and see if I develop any at this point I feel nothing.
amaysngrace Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Just enjoy his company and take it day by day. That's what I would do. Also only superficial feelings develop quickly. True feelings take longer. 1
Author Omei Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 Just enjoy his company and take it day by day. That's what I would do. Also only superficial feelings develop quickly. True feelings take longer. The only worry I have with taking it Day by Day is since he hasn't really had a real gf that freaks me out kinda
amaysngrace Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 The only worry I have with taking it Day by Day is since he hasn't really had a real gf that freaks me out kinda Why does it freak you out? Maybe it was a conscious decision.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 okay so I started making out, spending a lot of time with a guy my question is very simple im trying to move on 4 months after a 5 year breakup and sometimes it makes me feel good other times I worry im going in too soon, I dont feel butterflies with this guy or any sweet feelings towards him I love his company tho, his last gf was 5 years ago I JUST found out and since hes 23 years old i assume hes never had a serious relationship now im scared of them getting attached when I dont feel like a commitment right now, my question is since I dont feel a strong desire with feelings should I stop now before he does? Or should I stay and see if I develop any at this point I feel nothing. You usually know right away if there is something there or not...From what you have posted it might just mean you are lonely and he is filling a need.. Be careful not to drop the guy on his head of you are just "keeping him around for the company" He could be head over heels for you and in line for a huge fall... That just sucks...I know its hard, but just try to be considerate if there isnt anything there..Think long and hard on this one. TFY
hppr Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 23 no girlfriend is about normal honestly. Generally, guys gain that sort of experience a bit later in life than girls do. 4 months out of your 'puppy love' 5 year relationship is a bit soon but I don't see anything wrong with that either. Like the other people said just take it day by day and see what happens you have plenty of time.
bluegreen Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Make sure he knows this is no promises no commitment dating if that is all you can handle just dating then that's what you should do. Someone said what starts as fast and furious dies as fast and furious to and they were right so be careful of that. So what if he did not had Girl before maybe he is Christian, Maybe was busy with school maybe he did not meet right person you have a nice thing here. G guy unspoiled by all the usual crap people go trough while dating use it and enjoy it
Author Omei Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 23 no girlfriend is about normal honestly. Generally, guys gain that sort of experience a bit later in life than girls do. 4 months out of your 'puppy love' 5 year relationship is a bit soon but I don't see anything wrong with that either. Like the other people said just take it day by day and see what happens you have plenty of time. Idk why you would call a 5 year relationship puppy love :-S confused face. Anyway I have been stressing about it all night im a honest person i called him told him how I felt and were gonna hang out Friday, pretty much said that were moving too fast and we will disscuss options and he wasnt upset at all, and hes glad I told him 2 weeks in and not months in GOD I feel so much better! My biggest be is he does like me and has has all thease serious ideals going through his head hopefully on Friday we can be chill. Last time I saw him it got pretty hot fast too fast.
Author Omei Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 Make sure he knows this is no promises no commitment dating if that is all you can handle just dating then that's what you should do. Someone said what starts as fast and furious dies as fast and furious to and they were right so be careful of that. So what if he did not had Girl before maybe he is Christian, Maybe was busy with school maybe he did not meet right person you have a nice thing here. G guy unspoiled by all the usual crap people go trough while dating use it and enjoy it It's def a bonus there undamaged, but I am 4 years older with a child, so seriously dating a Guy that hasnt had a serious relationship before is something I worry about tbh he looked much older. Just wanna have fun. Worry he wants more and its just my personal opinion a starter gf shouldnt be one with a child thats just me.
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