justbent Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I'm not sure why I am posting this because I already know the answer, but I would like to know if anyone has been through or done this. My husband moved out about 1 year ago to move in with his gf. She is expecting a child with him and is going to have the baby at the end of the year. We never really stopped having sex, except for about a month when he first moved out. I'm not really sure what my reasons are to continue having sex with him. Part of me does this to get back at her (she was a mutual friend of ours) and part is just physical. I am starting to see it as a "friends with benefits" kind of relationship, but he still sees it as me being his wife just waiting for his return. I know I should stop this relationship but we have always had a great sexual relationship. This is really messed up and unfortunately he is going to have a rude awakening when he realizes that he is becoming just a friend with benefits. It still hurts me at times that he is not here with me and the kids, but as time goes by I feel myself changing and becoming more distant from him, while he still expects me to be the same women he used to live with. His new gf is the complete opposite of me which, I'm not sure if that is good or bad. I think he regrets the pregnancy part of that relationship but there really isn't much he can do about that now. He has told me that he loves hanging out with me and I don't know what to make of any of that. Not sure if it's sincere or if it's just the sex talking. I guess only time will tell but in the mean time I am confused with his actions. I would like some feedback about my weird relationship or if anyone has ever been in the same boat. P.S. He gets jealous at the thought of me dating someone else and I told him that he has no right to tell me who I can or can't see or sleep with.
AllTooWell Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Yeah stop sleeping with him. You still have feelings for him whether you're acknowledging it or not. This is your marriage that you are treating with such carelessness. Instead of working on reconciliation you are both really just playing games with each other. You have fun knowing he's ****ing another girl and DOESN'T CARE ENOUGH ABOUT YOU TO COME BACK TO YOU? Because that's what's happening here. You are showing him you have absolutely no self-worth. He isn't becoming YOUR friend with benefits. YOU are HIS friend with benefits. You are the one sitting here on LS posting about this. You are the one who is upset about it, maybe moreso than you would like to admit, and he is the one off with another woman. Cut this man out of your life. Unless he is coming back for recon you should not be communicating with him. 2
darkmoon Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 (edited) "he still sees it as me being his wife just waiting for his return"....okay, when is he moving back in?...I think if you can, see other people, either he will come back soon but - if you both like the sex you have, make sure if you are having sex that you have only to snap your fingers and he comes running, in front of her, do not play doormat keep us posted Edited July 16, 2013 by darkmoon
Gunny376 Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 BAD IDEA! I mean its really a bad idea! Next Question!
worldgonewrong Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Your wayward husband is using you. He won't give you the commitment of marriage in the fullest sense of the word, but he will gladly sleep with you & then wander off. It's disgusting and disrespectful to you, and you're allowing it. Cut him off cold. 1
hayewils Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Your wayward husband is using you. He won't give you the commitment of marriage in the fullest sense of the word, but he will gladly sleep with you & then wander off. It's disgusting and disrespectful to you, and you're allowing it. Cut him off cold. I second that!
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