lessica Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 My ex was to return to our home and collect all his 'rubbish' from our garage... things like wood, projects, some tools. Now he got most of it when he initially moved, but hasn't returned today, as he agreed to, to get the less important things. This is really bugging me. I have to go to a lot of trouble to get rid of the things in there because there is so much building gears, we only rented our home, so it needs to be removed at some point... Should I ring him and get him to remove it?? Have been NC. But this wouldn't exactly be a loved up call. It would be 'remove your remaining things please"
AllTooWell Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Hmmm I would wait. Do not contact him yet. Give him 3 days to contact you for the stuff. If this stuff is garbage and he hasn't contacted you for it, it's safe to assume you can jsut throw it out. If you're not comfortable with that then wait the three days and remove his stuff yourself. Put it on your lawn. THEN message him and say "I have removed the stuff you have failed to retrieve. It is on the lawn, please stop by and get it or I will be throwing it away." (I'm assuming you have garbage collection who would come and get it. If this doesn't get his ass moving to pick up his ****, let it go to the garbage.)
thefooloftheyear Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Dont call... Send a text..Be short..Give a specific date when the stuff needs to be gone. Tell him if he doesnt comply then you will dispose of it...If/when he decides to come, have a friend or family member meet him to let him get his stuff.. Dont use this as a reason to break NC or engage him.. TFY
bluegreen Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I agree very short and up to a point text or e mail or you will call Salvation Army and have them pick up all of it so you don't have to bother with it. Simple easy and gets job done if that's what you really want ?
JDPT Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Unless you are given an ultimatum by your landlord that his crap must be removed, do not contact him at all. It will only stir things up and you certainly don't want to go to that place again. Remain NC and when he decides to pick it up provide him with brief answers and a nice goodbye.
Author lessica Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 Well I didn't break no contact. But he turned up here to remove it all- which essentially broke the no contact as I had to unlock the garage. We had a talk- and I am completely confused.. will post another thread. Thanks everyone
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