Ex Girlfriend "Keeping an open mind"

[BLS]

2.5 Year relationship. 3.5 months post BU. 3 months NC.

 

While speaking to a friend of mine last night, he told me he ran into my ex and had short conversation with her. He relayed what she said to him to me. (I have been in NC for a while now, I forgot that hearing anything about the EX is against the rules but it happened).

 

He told me that she had said that she broke up with me because she began "seeing other men as attractive". She said that I was a "really good guy up until the end where I was a jerk". I believe she is referring to how when we initially broke up I pretty much slammed the door in her face and ignored her calls.

 

When asked about the prospect of us getting back together, she said that she is "keeping an open mind" about it and said something along the lines of wanting to wait until college had started and we both were settled in.

 

To my knowledge she has not been with anybody else (I have). I do not know how to feel about this, all I can feel are similar urges to break NC in some form (be it checking out her online stuff or contacting her) that I had a few months ago as well as an anxious feeling in the pit of my stomach. I still love her, I dream about her almost ever night.

 

Where do I go from here?

[SadHumiliated]

2.5 Year relationship. 3.5 months post BU. 3 months NC.

 

While speaking to a friend of mine last night, he told me he ran into my ex and had short conversation with her. He relayed what she said to him to me. (I have been in NC for a while now, I forgot that hearing anything about the EX is against the rules but it happened).

 

He told me that she had said that she broke up with me because she began "seeing other men as attractive". She said that I was a "really good guy up until the end where I was a jerk". I believe she is referring to how when we initially broke up I pretty much slammed the door in her face and ignored her calls.

 

When asked about the prospect of us getting back together, she said that she is "keeping an open mind" about it and said something along the lines of wanting to wait until college had started and we both were settled in.

 

To my knowledge she has not been with anybody else (I have). I do not know how to feel about this, all I can feel are similar urges to break NC in some form (be it checking out her online stuff or contacting her) that I had a few months ago as well as an anxious feeling in the pit of my stomach. I still love her, I dream about her almost ever night.

 

Where do I go from here?

 

 

You stay NC and if she wants to come back to you, only she can make the first move. Also, the issues that lead to the break up must be acknowledged and worked on immediately.

[steveT95]

From my experience and seeing others, all relationships that once broke down end up breaking down again.

 

You are beginning to move on. You have come so far now, further than I ever have. Keep it up! Consider her gone.

[BLS]

What I feel is temptations to do some internet looking around to see if there's anything about me. I know it sounds like a bad idea but curiosity is killing me right now.