aloneinaz Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 So, I've been seeing a new girl for a week now. We've been together on 5 different occasions and have slept together already as well. My mistakes I'm making is coming off a bit insecure. My last relationship ended 6 weeks ago. She was hot/cold and often broke it off over stupid stuff. I never felt like I trusted her and she certainly damage me a bit. This past week, during a couple of different texting periods, I took things she said the wrong way and figured she was doing the same games as my ex. This really bothered her to the point the texting went side wides and I had to call her to apologize and elaborate on what I was saying. Last night, we had a good dinner then went to a movie. There was a cute actress and I jokingly said in her ear that "id do her".. This upset her and she didn't really engage with me for 15 minutes even though I was asking her what was the matter. We went home and had sex. She then brought up that she didn't think it was appropriate for a guy to say that to a girl he's only dated for a week. I told her it was meant to get a funny reaction but she didn't care. So, this lead into a conversation about the damage I have my past relationship. She threw into my face that I talk about my ex all the time. At one point she was getting a bit upset and wanted to go home but I talked to her and asked her to not give up on me and be patient as i work thru the damage for the ex. She said we were still good She was going to the lake today and she knew I was playing golf at sunrise. I tried to call her at 845 and got her voice mail and left an upbeat message. So, I guess the only play now is to hold and wait to hear from her? Other thoughts?
sdraw108 Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 1. You've been overreacting to her texts, and made a big melodramatic scene out of it by calling her and having a "talk", when she got annoyed by it. 2. You told her "I'd do her" about a waitress when you've only been dating a week (she is completely right about how inappropriate this is). 3. You talk about your ex all the time. 4. You're coming across as clingy by calling her at 8.45am on a weekend. You've only known her a week - what makes you think she wants to be called that early on her day off? You need to get a grip! I've read quite a few of your posts on these forums and you usually come across as having it together, so I'm quite surprised by this.
Author aloneinaz Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 1. You've been overreacting to her texts, and made a big melodramatic scene out of it by calling her and having a "talk", when she got annoyed by it. 2. You told her "I'd do her" about a waitress when you've only been dating a week (she is completely right about how inappropriate this is). 3. You talk about your ex all the time. 4. You're coming across as clingy by calling her at 8.45am on a weekend. You've only known her a week - what makes you think she wants to be called that early on her day off? You need to get a grip! I've read quite a few of your posts on these forums and you usually come across as having it together, so I'm quite surprised by this. I appreciate your frankness and honesty in your reply. I agree, I am screwing up big time. For clarity (not that it makes it any better), I joked with her during the movie that I'd do the actress in it. It was sopose to get a chuckle, not offend. Clearly, it offended her and I'm a putz for saying it. We typically call or text each other every morning. It's about 50-50 on who does it first. She did call me back a little while ago. She said she's concerned about how i've acted a few times (with the insecurity). I clearly need to wipe my slate clean and stop acting like she's going to be a POS in her interactions with me like my ex was. The funny thing is, I'm a confident guy yet when I start to like someone I get all F-d up.. Well, if I blew this relationship, I have lots of take home value from it. Other thoughts or attacks?
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