LifeGoesOnMan Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 hey many of you may have or may not have read my saga about my breakup with my 7 year gf, but im doing my best to move on and get back into the dating world and figured to give online dating a shot. just looking for some advice here, i met a girl off of POF, a gorgeous 23yr old school teacher, got her number, been texting back and forth past few days, and i asked her if she wanted to go out next weekend, and she said she'd love too =) couple questions tho. 1.) We have been texting back and forth pretty much all day the past 3-4 days, however i am the one always initiating the convo, meaning I was the one to text her first, and have been the one texting first past couple days, do i continue to do this? or let her text me first? i dont want to come off clingy or anything. 2.) her profile says shes tired of "dinner & drinks", and wants to do something crazy for a first date..im sure i can figure something out, but any suggestions? 3.) && maybe im thinking too much into this, but we where texting back and forth last night, let her know i had a 10 day vacation coming up in the next week or so, she asked me if i was going somewhere or just hanging out, i said i may go to my uncles house in RI for a few days but its mostly a staycation lol she never replied back after that, and hasnt replied back this morning, do i text her again first? or do i let her text me first now? (again just dont want to come off as clingy, but i am kinda feeling this girl) your 2 cents would be appreciated!
amaysngrace Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Do something crazy and take her on an extended weekend getaway to DisneyWorld. The water parks are open!!
Author LifeGoesOnMan Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Do something crazy and take her on an extended weekend getaway to DisneyWorld. The water parks are open!! lol ok i live in the northeast, and i havent even met this girl in person yet, there is no way im bringing her to disney world, nor do i think she would agree to that (though if i lived in florida, this could be a different story) what about the texting thing?
amaysngrace Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 lol ok i live in the northeast, and i havent even met this girl in person yet, there is no way im bringing her to disney world, nor do i think she would agree to that (though if i lived in florida, this could be a different story) what about the texting thing? Texting is so impersonal. Pick up the phone and call her on it instead. And yeah...you don't want to do anything amazing and that could be your trouble right there. Instead of thinking "why?" you should ask yourself "why not?" especially because she said she's tired of regular dates. Wow her by daring to be different. Start by calling her after she texts you next time.
Author LifeGoesOnMan Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Texting is so impersonal. Pick up the phone and call her on it instead. And yeah...you don't want to do anything amazing and that could be your trouble right there. Instead of thinking "why?" you should ask yourself "why not?" especially because she said she's tired of regular dates. Wow her by daring to be different. Start by calling her after she texts you next time. yea the thing is , texting is fun and it also allows you to keep the convo going for hours rather than for 10-15 min at a time, alot you can say in a text convo over a longer period time then a phone call also phone calls can get awkward too, especially if you havent met them yet. so im really just asking, if she hasnt texted me back since last night, and i have been the one initiating the convos the past few days, should i text her first today? or wait for her to text me?
amaysngrace Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 yea the thing is , texting is fun and it also allows you to keep the convo going for hours rather than for 10-15 min at a time, alot you can say in a text convo over a longer period time then a phone call also phone calls can get awkward too, especially if you havent met them yet. so im really just asking, if she hasnt texted me back since last night, and i have been the one initiating the convos the past few days, should i text her first today? or wait for her to text me? Seems like you have all the answers already. Good luck.
Author LifeGoesOnMan Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Seems like you have all the answers already. Good luck. lol but i dont! you didnt answer my last question!
amaysngrace Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 lol but i dont! you didnt answer my last question! Yeah I'm not going to either cause what's the point when you keep shooting down everything I say? Want the truth? You got no chance so it doesn't matter what you do.
Author LifeGoesOnMan Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Yeah I'm not going to either cause what's the point when you keep shooting down everything I say? Want the truth? You got no chance so it doesn't matter what you do. touche' lol but disneyworld for a first date? cmon.. & ouch* 1
henderson14 Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 hey many of you may have or may not have read my saga about my breakup with my 7 year gf, but im doing my best to move on and get back into the dating world and figured to give online dating a shot. just looking for some advice here, i met a girl off of POF, a gorgeous 23yr old school teacher, got her number, been texting back and forth past few days, and i asked her if she wanted to go out next weekend, and she said she'd love too =) couple questions tho. 1.) We have been texting back and forth pretty much all day the past 3-4 days, however i am the one always initiating the convo, meaning I was the one to text her first, and have been the one texting first past couple days, do i continue to do this? or let her text me first? i dont want to come off clingy or anything. 2.) her profile says shes tired of "dinner & drinks", and wants to do something crazy for a first date..im sure i can figure something out, but any suggestions? 3.) && maybe im thinking too much into this, but we where texting back and forth last night, let her know i had a 10 day vacation coming up in the next week or so, she asked me if i was going somewhere or just hanging out, i said i may go to my uncles house in RI for a few days but its mostly a staycation lol she never replied back after that, and hasnt replied back this morning, do i text her again first? or do i let her text me first now? (again just dont want to come off as clingy, but i am kinda feeling this girl) your 2 cents would be appreciated! Gorgeous huh? You'd be surprised how many girls look gorgeous on online but not so great in real life.
Author LifeGoesOnMan Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Gorgeous huh? You'd be surprised how many girls look gorgeous on online but not so great in real life. lol i feel ya, but what can you do, just gotta see what they turn out to be..
Author LifeGoesOnMan Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 im thinking i shouldnt text her again until she texts me... anyone? anyone? bueller?
RebelWithoutACause Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Of course if you were the last one to text and she hasn't replied you don't text her again until she does. It's common sense. As far as the first date, if you get one, don't do anything too "creative", there is no point. If she doesn't want to go for drinks, go for a walk or something. Choose an activity that gives you a quick exit in case she turns out to be nuts. There is plenty of time for elaborate dates once you've gotten to know each other.
deissy_12 Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Wait until she texts you first. However if 2 or 3 days pass by without her texting you , send her a message. As for the date I think a picnic at the park would be nice, or you can take her ice skating or bowling. Good luck
Bigcitydreamer Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 New and exciting dates are awesome. Getting your adrenaline going while together really creates a bond! I've had some pretty cool dates in the past for example: concert, a trendy/ fancy bar, the amusement park, an the arcade lol and I am in no way a gamer but I went for the prizes and it was definitely fun! I'd try something cool and different available in your area. As for the texting this.. It's a bit worrisome that she left you hanging. I tend to only leave guys hanging and not having the decency to properly end a conversation if something is up. For example, recently I went on a date with an awesome guy, sang in a band, was awesome all around. But I left him hanging while texting more than once because I was still in contact with my ex. Super sh*tty thing to do.. I know. But at the end of the day if for some reason or another she didn't respond I'd wait a while before texting her first.. Like another poster said.. 2-3 days. I don't believe you should be texting a whole lot before a first date happens. It's just lame and pointless. Get a first date ASAP and don't text all day throughout the day for too long before a first date! Just my opinion.
Msmickey Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Find out her interest, sports or local activities. Just be patience and don't text her till the first date.
Author LifeGoesOnMan Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 Thanks for the replies guys! It's all good, I'm not stressing , she seemed like she was interested, called me "boo" the other day lol but hasn't texted me since Friday night , so whatever, ill text her tomorrow asking how her weekend was if she hasn't texted me first by then. Just hate the games, if your not interested just tell me, dafuq.
irc333 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 wants to do something crazy for a first date How about this, on your 10-day vacation, for something crazy....you reserve a hotel room for each other at an exotic location and never leave the room. ;-)
PogoStick Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 BDSM convention. Yeah and quit texting her, all day everyday. What will you have left to talk about when you meet?
conzboneeus Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 POF = Plenty Of Flakes! That site has more flakes than Kelloggs! At least the pay sites limit the riff raff.....somewhat.
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