I'm not her type, but she went on a date with me?

[FlyOrDie]

Hey everyone!

 

I recently went on a date with this girl, who I've been pursuing for like 6 weeks.

 

She and I have an extraordinary amount in common, from musical taste, sense of humor, race and even religion - the main reason behind me being so attracted to her (obviously.)

 

The date was overall successful, we couldn't stop having great conversations, and she couldn't stop laughing even to the lamest, sly jokes I said to her.

 

However, I didn't feel comfortable doing any strong/sexual flirting with her as well as doing slight touches on her arm, etc. to try and build some tension. Which basically lead to the date feeling like hanging out with a great friend - not a lover. Which I guess is basically my fault for not initiating..

 

Keep in mind we aren't in a relationship, she just agreed to a date.

 

Anyway after the date she started sub-tweeting me saying stuff like.

 

"I was about to tweet about a certain someone, but I realized he follows me on Twitter - that was a close call!"

 

"Even Instagram, Facebook, ahhhhh"

 

Then, my friend who introduced me to this girl in the first placed messaged me saying that she wrote about me in her personal blog - (which I'm not meant to know about)

 

She basically wrote this in regards to me:

 

"If you were to ask me if he was my type, he isn't really..... But, he's a really unique, funny and interesting guy."

 

What does this even mean? Lol. She's not attracted to me in that way? Or...?

 

Either way, I'm kind of unsure how to go from here - seeing as I said, I failed to create any sort of sexual attraction between her and I..

 

I was thinking of going silent with her for a week or two, to build some tension and get her thinking about me - then get her on another date if I'm lucky and man up and actually show her I'm interested in her, in that way - ie. do some actual flirting, and ultimately go in for a kiss later on..

 

What do you guys think? Am I overthinking this? Haha.

 

Any help or advice will be greatly appreciated - THANK YOU!

[ANewBeginning]

Sounds like the start of any other relationship mate. Don't go silent just yet. Reserve that for when things get really sour because at the sounds of it, you're still in with a chance.

 

What do you do now? Organise a second date. The first was for feeling the water and obviously there is something there. Second one is where you slowly start putting the action in. MAKE sure it is a DATE i.e. night time, something romantic etc. Then make sure she knows it is a date. When it comes to the actual date, just go with the flow and obviously in that setting, you're bound to start flirting etc. If you're nervous, a bit of wine etc might help Make this date within a reasonable amount of time after the first i.e. not too early but not too late.

 

Enjoy dude. And if all else fails, know that you put yourself out there and are doing better than many blokes out in the world or at the very least, me.

[kassy]

It probably means she usually goes for one type of guy and it never works out and she took a chance on you and it went well and she was pleasantly surprised.

 

FFS you don't make any attempt at flirting and now you think the way to let her know you like her is to ignore her for two weeks!!!!!! Really!?!?

 

She may think about you, but it's unlikely to be nice thoughts.

 

How about you ask her out in another date? Seems a much less ambiguous way to let her know you like her ... Why not keep things simple and act like a grown up?

[phineas]

I've yet to meet a woman actually end up with the type of guy they claim they want.

Usually however they end up going with the wrong type of guy.

 

Look if you gotta "game her" to get her it will not end well for you.

Forget that PUA stuff it's designed for banging high numbers of low quality women.

 

She either likes you or she don't so ask her out.

Why wait to find out?

[melodymatters]

Agree 100% with the posters above ! NONE of my most serious and special relationships were with guys I would have considered my "type" right off the bat, what made the R's special was the CONNECTION we shared.

 

Please, PLEASE, please, I beg of you, don't ruin the magic that is drawing you two to each other to play some wretched PUA game. If she's the type who needs that crap, she's too unhealthy for you anyway.

 

Good luck !

[RebelWithoutACause]

Why wait 2 weeks to contact her again? It's silly. All it'll achieve is make her think she wasn't your first choice and whatever else you had going fell thru so now you are back to her. It's a big turn off. Just ask her out within a reasonable time and take it from there. It's really not as complicated as you make it seem.

 

BTW just because you aren't her type doesn't necessarily mean she didn't find you attractive. In the past I've fallen for guys who theoretically weren't "my type" because the whole type thing is stupid anyways.

[SensitiveTJ]

"Types" are only what a person is most immediately attracted to, or what they believe they want. But people are capable of having an attraction to many varieties of men/women. At least, a healthy person, lol. All IMO, of course.