StanMusial Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Oh sweet Christ in Heaven hallowed be thy name thy Kingdom come. 2
Shaun-Dro Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 We met last night for the 1st time at a get-together by my aunt's house in Brooklyn. Um..she came from down south & just turned 19 & I'm 24 & we really really clicked & she told me she has problems trusting guys but how she trusts me 'cause we're family & how cute & sweet I am & we hung out the whole night . One of my uncles came over & made a comment about us looking too cozy together but I said nothing & he laughed. Then I called my shady uncle since he wasn't invited & asked him what he thought about cousins fooling around without telling him about me & her & my uncle told me he messed with several cousins over the years & laughed like it was no big deal or something . Now I'm really really thinking about it 'cause I feel so attracted to her emotionally & stuff & we been texting all night after she went back home. Um...she was here for a few days before yesterday so she had to go back & now I cant stop thinking about her . Has anyone done it with their cousin or fooled around or wanted to? I kinda feel alone on this. My uncle don't really count since he'll mess around with any girl he likes. Wow, it's you again . I never bothered to go through the posts since it's more than I want to read, but I'll comment on the above opener. You're attracted to your cousin, correct? Not a big deal since many of us are and have been at one point in time, myself included. But you want to know if any of us fooled around or wanted to? Well, I can't speak for others, but me personally haven't done it, however I did at one time consider it. And yes, I've flirted with at least 2 of them around my age, but nothing beyond that, because we knew and understood it would never work. I'm not even sure if your uncle was serious when he told you what he did, since you haven't been direct with him about your intentions. I also would not put it past him either. You seriously need to get a grip and leave this situation alone; for your own good as well as your surrounding loved ones. If you care enough about your family and its structure, you will not cross this stream and destroy the dynamics. But, of course, if none of this here matters to you, then do as you wish, and prepare for the falling out. Somehow, deep inside, I think you already know this, or you wouldn't had come on here asking us what we thought of this affair.
crederer Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 It's taboo for sure. Not that long ago it was considered normal. Also, are you first cousins? It's weird but you're both adults. Just be willing to accept the consequences that come with it, and I can assure you there will be many. 1
FitChick Posted August 4, 2013 Posted August 4, 2013 Um..not gonna date her ok? We just gonna cuddle & kiss & stuff & talk & all that good stuff u know. . And when you ask, "If I show you mine, will you show me yours?" expect her to leave the room screaming.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted August 9, 2013 Author Posted August 9, 2013 It's taboo for sure. Not that long ago it was considered normal. Also, are you first cousins? It's weird but you're both adults. Just be willing to accept the consequences that come with it, and I can assure you there will be many. Yea 1st cousins but I got bad news . All the way up until the day she was gonna come up to see me & spend time with me & stuff she said she had to change her flight to the 8th so I say okay & then I text her on the 8th & her phone is out of service? I dont understand what happen? Umm, Did she go broke or something & not pay the bill? I just dont know whats wrong. I was so so excited to see her & now it looks like she's gone .
MrNate 2.0 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Yea 1st cousins but I got bad news . All the way up until the day she was gonna come up to see me & spend time with me & stuff she said she had to change her flight to the 8th so I say okay & then I text her on the 8th & her phone is out of service? I dont understand what happen? Umm, Did she go broke or something & not pay the bill? I just dont know whats wrong. I was so so excited to see her & now it looks like she's gone . Is there no one else to hook up with outside of family members? Yeah....
iKING Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 What?! NYC I've seen you post some reasonable things.. The hell is this?
johan Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 Yea 1st cousins but I got bad news . All the way up until the day she was gonna come up to see me & spend time with me & stuff she said she had to change her flight to the 8th so I say okay & then I text her on the 8th & her phone is out of service? I dont understand what happen? Umm, Did she go broke or something & not pay the bill? I just dont know whats wrong. I was so so excited to see her & now it looks like she's gone . Do you have any other cousins to call up? Or maybe a single aunt? 4
MrNate 2.0 Posted August 9, 2013 Posted August 9, 2013 (edited) Is there no one else to hook up with outside of family members? Yeah.... I"ll have to find that picture again. Here it is. Edited August 9, 2013 by MrNate 2.0 2
Clockwork Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Think about the whole family situation too. I have a sister, our kids are close and they are young right now. But if my son decides to get it on with his cousin, well, that might be a little awkward at Christmas or Thanksgiving. There is a big dynamic here to look at.
MrCastle Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Take it as a sign bro. Again I tell you -- please do not date your cousin. Or hook up with her in any way. 3
iKING Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 We're still seriously considering the option? What in the.. What?! 2
SammySammy Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Thank God for that... Indeed. She probably never had a flight and changed her phone number because she was tired of her creepy cousin trying to get in her pants. 3
BradJacobs Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 That was my impression. Once she saw this guy was serious, she flaked out. OP, please stop taking advice from your gross uncle. Was going to read the thread for entertainment until that last part. Just wow! ... 1
syz Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 whether this was or is a good idea or not I have no idea depends on how close the families are vs not close and never met before type of thing. But just FYI 1st cousin marriage is legal in the US in about 19 states. Then there is that pesky little full faith and credit clause which makes the marriage legal pretty much forcing it to be valid in states where it is banned.
Divasu Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Before you make your decision OP, please for your own good. 1
iKING Posted August 10, 2013 Posted August 10, 2013 Before you make your decision OP, please for your own good. Thank you for sharing that Divasu. I didn't realize friends was actually funny. 1
Author NYC-BigKat Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 That was my impression. Once she saw this guy was serious, she flaked out. OP, please stop taking advice from your gross uncle. Uhh...my uncle never gave me advice on my cousin nope. He don't know her or about us or anything I didn't want anyone knowing about us u know. But it looks like she changed her mind about me . I'm just so so tired of being all alone all the time & she was so so close to breaking my curse. I feel like I'm gonna choke .
MrCastle Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Uhh...my uncle never gave me advice on my cousin nope. He don't know her or about us or anything I didn't want anyone knowing about us u know. But it looks like she changed her mind about me . I'm just so so tired of being all alone all the time & she was so so close to breaking my curse. I feel like I'm gonna choke . I think you're reaching a point where you need professional help. Not a joke or an insult. You need help. Perhaps talking to a therapist will do you some good.
Shaun-Dro Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Uhh...my uncle never gave me advice on my cousin nope. He don't know her or about us or anything I didn't want anyone knowing about us u know. But it looks like she changed her mind about me . I'm just so so tired of being all alone all the time & she was so so close to breaking my curse. I feel like I'm gonna choke . I'm glad your so-called date with your cousin got cancelled. You were really heading in the wrong direction with this one. 1
Pookie5 Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 basically, i come from a culture where cousin marriages are allowed. basically, i think it's fine.. if you are serious with him.. but it can get awkward if you two turn sour. if you guys click, go for it.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 basically, i come from a culture where cousin marriages are allowed. basically, i think it's fine.. if you are serious with him.. but it can get awkward if you two turn sour. if you guys click, go for it. We cant do anything now 'cause her phone is out of service & I don't know why but its probably 'cause she's done with me .
Divasu Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I'm glad your so-called date with your cousin got cancelled. You were really heading in the wrong direction with this one. Yes. And OP, don't feel bad about having the crush. I had a little one on an older cousin when I was around 7 years old. Eventually it went away.
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