Confused117 Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 So I'm not just asking if this guy likes me ONLY because I caught him checking me out, there's more to the story.. So there's this guy that I think is COMPLETELY hot. Here's the thing. We've never actually spoken. The first time I saw him was at the cook out, and then at the after party, he walked past me semi dancing and tapped me on my shoulder, smiled, and danced past me. I was just taken aback, because I'm so shy and I guess that was forward to me, but there was no way I was going to reciprocate the action, because I'm too shy. Fast forward I don't see him until 11 months later. At a graduation party for my cousin, and I catch him staring at me, and trying to hold eye contact. But once again. I'm really shy. So I quickly diverted the eye contact and went to go sit by my brother. Then today, I was at a party. And I was sitting with my friends, who he knows pretty well (but I don't know him pretty well because he moved to my home town while I was away at school), and he immediately just hugged me, and hugged all my friends... Mind you. I've never spoken a word to him.. Why would he hug me? And give no introduction? Is that weird? I thought that was weird. But the hug was friendly, and he gave the same hug to all 3 of my friends, so I can't say anything about it. Okay so after that, I got bold, because I had some liquor in me. So I was staring at him, and then he was staring at me. And then I think someone asked him something so he looked away. Then once when me and my friends were sitting down in the chairs by the dance floor. He came and started dancing in front of us. I might see him again tomorrow at this annual cook out....I friend requested him on facebook. Bad move? Should I remove it before he sees it? And most importantly.. DO YOU THINK HE LIKES ME?
Author Confused117 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 bump... looking for honest opinions and suggestions
Author Confused117 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Thanks or making me feel welcome to the board... If you didn't have anything concrete to contribute, you could have saved it. But I hope you've made yourself feel tall in your e-stilettos by charging in my thread trying to put me down for asking for opinions on a situation. People that come on the internet to rage on others who are innocent blow my mind. You must be unhappy in life. And you deserve all your unhappiness.
opal-elle Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 It's possible that he may like the LOOK of you, as he has never actually spoken to you. The way only way to find out is to be daring and strike up a conversation. Best case scenario, you end up getting to know each other.. worst case scenario, he's not interested. You should go for it.
sdraw108 Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 (edited) Thanks or making me feel welcome to the board... If you didn't have anything concrete to contribute, you could have saved it. But I hope you've made yourself feel tall in your e-stilettos by charging in my thread trying to put me down for asking for opinions on a situation. People that come on the internet to rage on others who are innocent blow my mind. You must be unhappy in life. And you deserve all your unhappiness. Hey, welcome to this forum. People here are often blunt and won't hold back on giving their true opinion on people's issues that they post about. Try to realise that this is a good thing - you came here looking for advice after all, and it's better that people say exactly what they think than devalue the advice by modifying it in order to avoid hurting your feelings. I wouldn't have put it as bluntly as the other person did, but they basically have the right idea. A guy has shown interest a few times. From his point of view, you've completely rejected his advances (e.g. by averting your eyes, walking away from him, and sitting with your brother). He thinks you're completely disinterested in him. I get that you're shy, but you have to overcome that. How is it possible that he's even hugged you, but you've never exchanged a word with him? Would it have been so hard to say "Hi, I'm <name>, nice to meet you"? I'm sorry to say, but the Facebook friending is going to seem a bit weird I think, if you've never even spoken to him. I wouldn't withdraw the request at this point because he may have already seen it. If he adds you, initiate some kind of conversation with him. You said you're seeing him at some cooking thing tomorrow? Go up to him and strike up a conversation! Use some cooking-related pretext as an excuse, if you can't think of anything else. He sounds like quite a confident guy so if he's interested, he'll use it as an opening to keep the conversation flowing, and you won't have to worry about being shy so much. Edited July 13, 2013 by sdraw108
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