gersanos Posted October 22, 2004 Posted October 22, 2004 What is compatibility? What does it entail? Just getting along with each other? Sharing same general views on things such as marriage, kids, career, money, etc.? I'm asking because I had a girlfriend once that I was with for half a year. Things were swell between us, until we had a fight. During the fight she said that maybe we're not compatible. I was puzzled. Compatibility is a big thing, but I was surprised that she said this during the fight, and of course, our first fight. It took her 6 months to realize this? She broke up with me after that fight (it was dragged out). She never elaborated on it, but just mentioned unhappiness. Any input on what compatibility entails? We got along great, although she came from a much wealthier family than I did. Money was the only thing we disagreed about, and it could have very well been her "deal-breaker," even though our fight was not about money. Oh, and we did have different views on fashion. She was totally into shopping and spending lots of money on clothes and such, whereas I'm more casual, adn I think just being a guy, not into shopping for clothes. Marriage, vacation, family, kids, education, carreer, politics, and religion were all agreed upon, and chemistry was there. We got along great, but had just one drawn out fight. Personality wise I was extroverted and social, whereas she was introverted and quieter, but, I thought we complemented one another because she became more extroverted and outgoing, and I became more sensitive and reflective I would tend to think that the issue of compatibily is sorted out in the beginning somewhat, like while you are dating them or whatever. Going to couple status, and being there for a while, and then mentioning incompatible was odd I thought.
Author gersanos Posted October 22, 2004 Author Posted October 22, 2004 We were also best of friends when we were together. She never said why she was unhappy, just that she was unhappy and didn't want to work on it anymore. I suspected another guy, but never asked.
moimeme Posted October 23, 2004 Posted October 23, 2004 The fact that one of you thought you were compatible and the other didn't means you were incompatible. It doesn't mean you won't be with another girl.
Author gersanos Posted October 23, 2004 Author Posted October 23, 2004 Whoa, I'm not bummed here about this. I find it amusing more than anything, and, I am not worried about not finding someone else. I find it amusing because it came about down the road after 1 fight. I used it as a joke afterwards, and laughed about it, but I have never heard someone use this before - either things are swell, or you know they're not; compatibility does not get brought up when you have a small fight eventhough everything else is fine. Guess was just blindsided by this out of nowhere. And you're right, when one person thinks that, then you're not compatible. But, I found the answer I was looking for when searching previous threads as to what it entails. Thanks.
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