Gargant Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Well, I must say I'm a little confused about something, so I've turned to the forums. My story goes like this. I met a girl online, and we hit it off well. We were both single, and after 8 months of getting to know each other I asked her to be my GF. She accepted, and we've been in a happy relationship for 2 years now, and our 3rd anniversary is just around the corner. I'm as happy as can be, emotionally. Every text and every phone call and video chat I get from her brightens my day a lot, and I'd do anything to make her happy. But I've run into a problem. I've been able to easily control myself for a long time now, but lately, as I get older, I get more and more physically lonely. It'll be about another year or two before we can meet due to school and all, and I've just...been eyeing other girls. And I feel terrible about it, because she trust me, and I trust her. But I fear that I won't be able to control myself one day, especially since a girl has just confessed she had a crush on me. I've never had that happen to me. I've always been the best friend or brother, never a crush. I'm the friend-zone forever kinda guy. And I'm honestly happy with it. So the crush took me by surprise... Now, I'm not asking for ways to cheat, or if I should. Because I won't. I just can't. I was in the position to do so, but in the end I couldn't go through with it. What I am asking for is help on what to do...I don't want to break up with her. I just want to know someways on how to control myself for just a one or two more years before we meet up...Please help the terrible inexperienced and confused teen.
Chris516 Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Well, I must say I'm a little confused about something, so I've turned to the forums. My story goes like this. I met a girl online, and we hit it off well. We were both single, and after 8 months of getting to know each other I asked her to be my GF. She accepted, and we've been in a happy relationship for 2 years now, and our 3rd anniversary is just around the corner. I'm as happy as can be, emotionally. Every text and every phone call and video chat I get from her brightens my day a lot, and I'd do anything to make her happy. But I've run into a problem. I've been able to easily control myself for a long time now, but lately, as I get older, I get more and more physically lonely. It'll be about another year or two before we can meet due to school and all, and I've just...been eyeing other girls. And I feel terrible about it, because she trust me, and I trust her. But I fear that I won't be able to control myself one day, especially since a girl has just confessed she had a crush on me. I've never had that happen to me. I've always been the best friend or brother, never a crush. I'm the friend-zone forever kinda guy. And I'm honestly happy with it. So the crush took me by surprise... Now, I'm not asking for ways to cheat, or if I should. Because I won't. I just can't. I was in the position to do so, but in the end I couldn't go through with it. What I am asking for is help on what to do...I don't want to break up with her. I just want to know someways on how to control myself for just a one or two more years before we meet up...Please help the terrible inexperienced and confused teen. Think of it this way. Even if you see some girl locally, it doesn't mean you will automatically like, or that she will even like you. Also, Anyone else would not know you as well as your GF. So you need to concentrate on your GF.
Els Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 Why has school prevented you from seeing each other even once for the past 2 years? I hate to rain on your parade, and I well understand how it is possible to develop feelings for one another over a distance. But it's not generally a great idea to commit to this degree, to someone whom you've never met. I really think you both owe it to yourselves to make that meeting happen, if you are to continue this. 2
LittleTiger Posted July 28, 2013 Posted July 28, 2013 I agree with Elswyth. I think you need to meet asap. You've already given each other two years of your lives and, although I understand your feelings (I've been there believe me), until you meet for real the relationship is not based on reality. I'm not in any way negating what you have here. Your feelings are real and your friendship is real but, however much you may wish it to be true, any romantic or sexual chemistry you think you have is not yet real. Physical desire is an essential part of a successful romantic relationship and, until you can see each other in the flesh and touch and smell one another, you won't know if this kind of chemistry exists. How will you feel if you wait another two years (so four in total) and then discover that the physical chemistry isn't there between you. Either she doesn't do it for you or vice versa? It happens a lot - even to people who think they've found their perfect partner. Meet her as soon as possible, or you may look back on this time of your life with some serious regrets. 2
emi Posted July 29, 2013 Posted July 29, 2013 I guess I'll never, ever understand why people CHOOSE to basically sign their lives away to 'commit' to what really amounts to nothing more than some kind of pen pal computer romance. What's the POINT? So you can sit and watch your entire life pass right by you while you sit at your keyboard chatting away about 'some day' with someone thousands of miles away? Jeez, what a waste of the precious gift of LIFE we've all been given. Look, you're a teenage boy. You've committed yourself to some nonsense 'relationship' that has shackled you to your computer and cell phone for 3 wasted years while you missed ALL the opportunties to live your life the way it was intended to be lived. Of COURSE your natural instincts are finally telling you to stop wasting your life on Skype and get out there and do what EVERY teenage boy is supposed to do. Stop depriving yourself of your life. It's foolish and it's 3 years you'll NEVER get back. Meeting her isn't going to do squat except put you RIGHT BACK behind the computer keyboard for another umpteen years. Get smart. Please. Don't grow up to regret throwing your entire teenage life away on someone you've never even met. srsly that is his choice, and not all sucessful relationship base on chesmitry reaction, its good if u can have that, but hey u cant choose who u fall inlove with, If he got an intetion to keep himself clean for his gf, thanks goddamn he is a great dude, dont judge people like that, but tbh i think u already dating for 2 years? CMON meet up!!!!! u cant decide whatever to go further without meeting each other
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