Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 As you know that was the turning point for me..If you cant, dont do it.. I hate to say this because it sounds douchey, but now is the time to be a man..A strong and secure man..One that doesnt let a stupid woman control his life and his happiness-after she unceremoniously dropped you on your head..Picture her and her new guy having fun and laughing at you and your wallowing in the shyt and start to get pissed off.. If you cant find that inner "whatever" , then just let NC do what it so successfully does...get you to a path of indifference..But I didnt want to waste another God damned minute letting this person have control over me. Causing me to lose sleep...Causing me to not show my beautiful daughter the best side of me , not some pathetic sad sack of a man.. Find a way, any way you can...She doesnt deserve any place in your thinking process.. TFY I got ya!!! And you're right. Just need to grow a pair and send this b*tch packin. Seriously, f*ck her... It will be tough, but I will try. For you TFY!!! 1
bluegreen Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Time to get some sleep buddy you are out of it. We said all the right things did all the right things but we can't do this for you. For crying out loud don't turn into some members we "know" here Seriously hit a sack and in morning take a look at what drinking and self pity sounds and seems like and its not attractive sight .... 1
thefooloftheyear Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 See. This is what bothers me!! I found her so attractive. So close to me. I never had this in my first 39 years. Thought she was so perfect. So special... NOT!! Don't know what else might be out there, but, it won't be her... i'm confused!!! Cmon man...Do you really believe that this one woman is the only one on the planet that can give you that feeling..?? Pure unadulterated nonsense.. She must have a pussy lined with gold or something:rolleyes:...Sorry for being crude, but be realistic...She isnt all that!! TFY 1
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Cmon man...Do you really believe that this one woman is the only one on the planet that can give you that feeling..?? Pure unadulterated nonsense.. She must have a pussy lined with gold or something:rolleyes:...Sorry for being crude, but be realistic...She isnt all that!! TFY You dude's are right. I know i'm having a moment, but didn't realize it was so 'wussie' sounding. Signing off for now due to drunkness...
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Sorry but am NOT dude My bad. Again, blame Johnnie Walker...
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Yup. It's 1:30. I got about 10 more minutes....
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Thanks though. I appreciate the 'straight' talk!!!!
bluegreen Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Oh look at that well I think I just might get to heaven after all And now am off this thread before Robert takes a peek at it now that is one dude I find scary 1
Omei Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Wow what an amazing proposal! Maybe you should date me:-P but in seriousness good luck hope your doing well!
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Wow what an amazing proposal! I know, right? I thought so too
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Oh look at that well I think I just might get to heaven after all And now am off this thread before Robert takes a peek at it now that is one dude I find scary Ok, I slipped up Sheeesh. Am I going to love with that one forever??
aloneinaz Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 MB, have you done any therapy? Do you think you have self confidence or poor self esteem? You've "grieved" long enough over this relationship. You should be past this point and actually start having some dates again. The old expression "Insanity, doing the same things the same way and expecting a different outcome" apply here. You're not dating, you sitting home too much putting one woman on a pedestal. She rejected you and moved on with her life. Why can't you? There's MILLIONS of women out there looking for what you are. You can't find that sitting home day after day. No ones going to come knocking on your door. You know my story. I've been dating for a few weeks now after a 1.4 year LTR. I have NO DOUBT it's helped me. Getting laid, holding hands, flirting, having good conversations with the opposite sex is good for us. I'm SCREWING up some of these things due to dragging some baggage from my ex into a couple of them but I'll keep getting better. Dating is a means to an end. In my case, it's to meet a woman for my last relationship. I can't find it sitting at home.
Enna Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Wow what an amazing proposal! Maybe you should date me:-P but in seriousness good luck hope your doing well! Hands off, Omei, he's mine! :-) If someone flew me over SF bay I would liquefy and drip through the floor of the aircraft. If that isn't how it actually ended she's crackers!
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 MB, have you done any therapy? Do you think you have self confidence or poor self esteem? You've "grieved" long enough over this relationship. You should be past this point and actually start having some dates again. -Therapy? Yup. Been going every 10 days or 2 weeks since Feb... -Self esteem issues? Yup. Big time. Mostly developed from when I was a little kid. -Past this point? That would be great. Getting there. Slowly. Definitely doing a lot better than I was 90 days ago!! -Dating? Yup. A little. Went on one in Sacramento a couple of weeks ago. It was fun. No romance, but whatever. Got a couple things in the works in OLD, but that's kind of weird in its own right. And honestly, not much to choose from IRL where I live now. Slim pickens!!! Hopefully moving soon! The old expression "Insanity, doing the same things the same way and expecting a different outcome" apply here. You're not dating, you sitting home too much putting one woman on a pedestal. She rejected you and moved on with her life. Why can't you? There's MILLIONS of women out there looking for what you are. You can't find that sitting home day after day. No ones going to come knocking on your door. Again, I am doing a lot better than I was. I discovered it's a slow process, and it goes up and down. Days are mostly good with a few bad ones here and there. I am getting close. I can feel it.... Dating is a means to an end. In my case, it's to meet a woman for my last relationship. I can't find it sitting at home. Be careful with this mentality. This is exactly what I thought my last RS was... Wrong!!
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Hands off, Omei, he's mine! :-) If someone flew me over SF bay I would liquefy and drip through the floor of the aircraft. If that isn't how it actually ended she's crackers! Meh. I guess if you really don't love the person, it doesn't matter how grand the gestures. Think if someone you didn't care for, did something like this for you. It wouldn't mean anything...
bluegreen Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 MB, have you done any therapy? Do you think you have self confidence or poor self esteem? You've "grieved" long enough over this relationship. You should be past this point and actually start having some dates again. The old expression "Insanity, doing the same things the same way and expecting a different outcome" apply here. You're not dating, you sitting home too much putting one woman on a pedestal. She rejected you and moved on with her life. Why can't you? There's MILLIONS of women out there looking for what you are. You can't find that sitting home day after day. No ones going to come knocking on your door. You know my story. I've been dating for a few weeks now after a 1.4 year LTR. I have NO DOUBT it's helped me. Getting laid, holding hands, flirting, having good conversations with the opposite sex is good for us. I'm SCREWING up some of these things due to dragging some baggage from my ex into a couple of them but I'll keep getting better. Dating is a means to an end. In my case, it's to meet a woman for my last relationship. I can't find it sitting at home. I agree with you hopefully he will realize this to
hellon Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Meh. I guess if you really don't love the person, it doesn't matter how grand the gestures. Think if someone you didn't care for, did something like this for you. It wouldn't mean anything... MB, you should have no regrets for putting yourself out there. 1
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 I agree with you hopefully he will realize this to I guess when posting sappy pity threads I get what I deserve. But honestly BG, I get it. I get all of it. I just go up and down and tonite was a down mixed with a lot of whiskey. So, no need to suggest that hopefully I will realize anything. I already realize it. All of it. Got it??
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 MB, you should have no regrets for putting yourself out there. My only regret is not setting boundaries and letting her manipulate and deceive me. The signs were there and I ignored them... This is the first time I've felt this way about another human being, and I guess I didn't really do things correctly. Live and learn, I guess.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 Almost.. When it comes to females, my mom and my daughter are irreplaceable..But they are my blood. And they will never let me down...Ill save all my undying affection and loyalty to them...They deserve it most... Lost my mom last December too. I'm sure it's complicating things. Just not sure exactly how and where in my thinking....
hellon Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 My only regret is not setting boundaries and letting her manipulate and deceive me. The signs were there and I ignored them... This is the first time I've felt this way about another human being, and I guess I didn't really do things correctly. Live and learn, I guess. Understood. But doing things correctly? If she was manipulative and deceptive, SHE wasn't doing things correctly. Anyway, I think we're all allowed to have a pity party, once in awhile. Just don't dwell in it.
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